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Like, oh, hello, you're so cute.

And walk on and the owner's like, oh my God, I hope she doesn't stop and talk to me as well.

You know, I'm like, I don't want you, I just want the dog.

And it's one of those things where it's happening all the time around us.

And if we start to pay attention and really get that feeling in our body, we want more of it.

It feels good.

A clinician, Deb Dana, coined the word glimmers.

And she works with a lot of trauma survivors.

And saying things like safety or having too big of a feeling was too much for them.

So she wanted to make it so small that it was achievable for everybody.

Not too frightening.

One of her words, actually, that she uses is...

okayness yeah and i love that because it's like forget a safety connected just are you okay right now you've got your feet on the ground are you warm yes check okay are you hungry no okay that's good do i need to pee no no okay right now i'm okay

I think most of us are.

And then we react.

It's like this...

reaction we're all reacting to life rather than responding to yes exactly and if reacting and if we part of the nervous system work when i started to learn about it i started to look at people differently and it wasn't like they're bad but like they're dysregulated

they're acting from this place you end up having a lot more compassion for sound and then the co-regulation comes in when it's like if my nervous system can be steady then you're nervous then that will translate into your nervous system

And it's also, you know, in labor, it's a big thing.

As soon as someone walks into the room in labor with adrenaline and freaking out, the mother's labor is going to stop.