Nadia

Have I just given everything up for a man?

No, this isn't right.

So thank goodness I did have a therapist that I could reflect all this stuff back to.

She's like, no, this is old and it doesn't belong to you.

And you're not having that experience.

This is your experience.

And it took me a while to go, actually, even if this doesn't work out, I'm all right.

And it doesn't mean that she's always all right.

There's lots of wobbles.

None of us have to always be all right.

No, no, no.

But what's nice is that that's good to say to everybody.

None of us have to be all right all the time.

I often get a phone call going, did I make the right decision?

Yeah.

Did I just give up my whole life?

Should I not come home and actually work?

And I'm like, no.

yeah you're okay so it's like this you know it doesn't mean like once you figure out your nervous system and you know what the problem is it's all sailing from there it's like constant here it is again here it is again and being able to like find that safety and come back to yourself and i just wanted to share that story when you know looking for this big thing

whether it is a relationship or whatever it is.