Nadia

Well, I think for us, what's made it easier is having really clear boundaries.

And put through what a boundary is, really.

I think sometimes when people think about boundaries, they think it's like, no, you know.

And it doesn't have to be.

It could be like, oh, I'm so sorry.

That's just not going to work for me today.

Maybe I'll do it tomorrow.

You know, it can be fine if there's an exercise in the book.

that leads you through great exercise because it's just asking you okay what's being asked of you how much energy do you have to do it how is it going to make you feel if you do it and you can just go through those questions to even say

Oh, you know what that?

No, that doesn't.

I can't.

I don't have my cups not full enough to give you that right now.

And it can do it nicely.

It doesn't have to be this hard.

No, I was reading a book and she called it instead of boundaries.

She calls it a membrane membrane.

which i quite like i like that idea of like a membrane is a bit softer and it's not like a a wall yeah and there's also a great quote and if i can remember it'd be great it it's like a boundary is the distance at which i can love you and myself simultaneously

Oh, sorry, I had to just go over that.

You have to think about it.