Nadia

And I'd be like, you've made me give up everything.

And he'd be like, but what about everything you've gained?

You know, so I was just in this constant flight state of wanting to leave.

And it took his nervous system, calm, steady, to be like,

Okay, well, you can go home anytime you want, but I love you.

I'm here, you know, to show me that there's another way.

Then there's numbing, which we were talking about in the car on the way here.

So I think a lot of us live in this state of functional freeze.

So real freeze.

So it's when like your sympathetic nervous system fight flight didn't work.

Like this isn't working for me.

I couldn't fight and I couldn't run.

Yeah.

And she often blames herself that I couldn't fight, but actually it's her body protecting her.

And I think that shift as well in trauma work when, when women hear that, like, oh, actually my system didn't fail me.

It totally protected me is really healing.

It's how we, I mean, we were saying this about you, just how safe you, it's like you emanate it to the people that are on your show.

You want us to feel safe.

Yeah, you do.

And that's co-regulation, like working.