Ned Rort

He knew about my mum's younger onset dementia.

So we did have those really big, heavy conversations pretty early on.

And we knew we were on the same page with the stuff that mattered.

And I think that's what me and my ex didn't talk about.

It's one thing, you know, having these lofty ideas, but if you're not on, not only wanting the same things, but kind of on the same timeline, then you're going to come into a couple of issues, I think.

If they look like they want the ground to swallow them up every time you bring up marriage or children, it's probably a bit of a red flag.

I was going to say, it comes up for me a hell of a lot.

Whether it comes up for him is another story, but it's definitely on my mind, especially now I'm pregnant, more often than you probably even realise.

Yeah.

I think that for a long time, you know, if I'd had a couple of wines, that's kind of where my head always went to.

I knew I wanted a family.

I knew I wanted to start a family.

I knew I wanted to start a family with Ned.

And I think it was one thing when I was single for all those years.

That's a later Tali problem.

That's a future Tali problem.

In some ways, meeting Ned, who I just knew in my heart of hearts is the love of my life and my person...

it suddenly made all those what-ifs a lot more real and a lot more serious and a lot more scary.

Because I felt like, you know, oh, it had taken me so long to find him and now I had him and I had so much more to lose.

And so all those fears that I'd kind of just been shoving into a box up in a cupboard for late at night when my anxiety was coming to play, suddenly it was very much in front of me and I had to make some big decisions.