Nelly Furtado
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Nov 2024
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Because it was the first time it had felt, you know, like that right. You know, where it was like, oh. Where you felt like you had that profound sense of a certain kind of peace, you know what I mean? And a certain kind of certainty, right? And it's that idea when the certainty just kind of gets pulled out from under you or the rug gets pulled out.
And you go, oh, my God, I have a lot to learn still. I have a lot to learn about me. And you might have had a horrible experience. For sure, I went through a very difficult time where I think – I accepted some things that, uh, that I would never accept now, you know, in terms of, um, the way you're treated. Yeah.
You cannot see it at all when you're in it. And, Sometimes we just love so hard and we love and I'm sure there's women out there too, you know, when we become mothers, we're quite vulnerable when we become mothers, because we just want what's best for our kids and we want to protect them. And I think that in general, I'll say that it can really happen to anybody feeling powerless.
You know what I mean? You could have all the money in the world and all the resources, but in the mind, really that is your only wealth is in your mind. And so if you can't feel strong enough and clear enough to move out of a situation that might be toxic for you and not the best for you and also abusive in any way, you know, I think that
Yeah, I'm definitely not here to tear anyone down or anything, but I think that it's honest to say that it is hard when you're in a relationship that has that imbalance, I will say, and abusive qualities. It is hard to see outside of it because you isolate yourself. You stop talking to your friends.
you don't tell you know your friends the truth about what's going on in your life and you live in a bubble and it's hard to admit you know that you have chosen um to not say anything right it's hard to admit to yourself it is it is right and then on top of that the love right love you know keeps you there because oh you wanna you know and I and I will say that too like I think
As women, we think we tend to sacrifice our happiness sometimes, you know, once we're in it. Of course. Once we've fallen in love, right? We tend to... We sacrifice ourselves sometimes.
And we think we're doing the right thing. Yeah.
Fear, fear is huge too because when you have, when you fear, you know, when you have fear, that can be a very powerful emotion. You can be afraid, but you can, it kind of like you create it in your mind, you know, you can be afraid like, oh, what's the person going to do to me or say about me or like, you know, et cetera, et cetera, or I don't know. You just, you fear, you fear that.
And again, it's heightened when you have, you know, like-
I have a song about it on my album.
I almost had the strength, but again, like something would keep me there, you know, where I was like, oh, this is, you know, this is the moment. So I think that in, I will say having remarkable friends, like I'm very lucky. I have some really, really, really amazing friends, really core like childhood friends that have been there for me.
my whole entire life and they just kind of knew what to say to me and knew what was too much or too little. And even the hard stuff, you know, I have some friends that I will say to ladies out there, you know what, those people that are telling you what you don't want to hear, those are the ones you need to keep close.
hopefully they know you well enough to not repel you with judgment or anything like that. And it's not judgment. You can sense when it's love. And I think everyone has someone, you know, maybe one person or one voice in their life that is maybe like reminding you when stuff is not okay and like what your worth is and what behavior is unacceptable if you cannot see it for yourself. It's so true.
Yeah, you do.
Yeah, to just kind of be like, no, actually, I'm not going to talk to you anymore. Right. Or whatnot. But tough love doesn't work all the time, but it's in doses, right? And I'm trying to think of another thing that helped me. I think... Ooh, geez, that's such a good question. I think you have aha moments. You know what I mean?
They just have sometimes like a moment where you're like, okay, you know, and then sometimes, I guess I was lucky in a way because maybe like, on top of it, I wasn't really the one who chose at the end of the day. Like, you know what I mean? I went through a rough time, but then At the end of the day, it wasn't really my decision. But then I quickly learned that then, okay, now I'm doing me.
You do. And then for some reason, your brain only feeds you happy memories. It's really weird.
You're like, maybe she was actually the restaurant, the coffee shop, like the movie we went to. And it's like very weird. It's so fucked up. That's a tough phase. Yeah, that's a tough phase when your brain feeds you all these happy memories. Let's flood you with happy because there are happy memories, right?
Yeah, it's just totally normal. It's a process. You know what I mean? Because the truth is, it's like anything, right? Like, how many Band-Aids do you have, right? And how long do those take to heal?
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