Nick Pollard

Why is people-pleasing such a trap for so many of us? There's a long answer and a short answer. I think the short answer to that is that we have created an environment through social media really predominantly that everybody's now seeking to measure up to somebody else rather than focused on this internal locus of control where you can... you can really be vibrant on your own.

Why is people-pleasing such a trap for so many of us? There's a long answer and a short answer. I think the short answer to that is that we have created an environment through social media really predominantly that everybody's now seeking to measure up to somebody else rather than focused on this internal locus of control where you can... you can really be vibrant on your own.

Why is people-pleasing such a trap for so many of us? There's a long answer and a short answer. I think the short answer to that is that we have created an environment through social media really predominantly that everybody's now seeking to measure up to somebody else rather than focused on this internal locus of control where you can... you can really be vibrant on your own.

But the way that we function now as a society is, has changed that. And everybody's comparing themselves to people that, you know, are insurmountable. And I find myself doing this too.

But the way that we function now as a society is, has changed that. And everybody's comparing themselves to people that, you know, are insurmountable. And I find myself doing this too.

But the way that we function now as a society is, has changed that. And everybody's comparing themselves to people that, you know, are insurmountable. And I find myself doing this too.

So, you know, I worship at the altars of, you know, Alex Hermosi and, you know, James Smith and all these guys that I see have, you know, millions of followers and make millions of dollars and they're exciting and they're fun. And I'm like, how do I get to that? Right. Rather than recognizing in myself, like I can, Just be happy with where I am.

So, you know, I worship at the altars of, you know, Alex Hermosi and, you know, James Smith and all these guys that I see have, you know, millions of followers and make millions of dollars and they're exciting and they're fun. And I'm like, how do I get to that? Right. Rather than recognizing in myself, like I can, Just be happy with where I am.

So, you know, I worship at the altars of, you know, Alex Hermosi and, you know, James Smith and all these guys that I see have, you know, millions of followers and make millions of dollars and they're exciting and they're fun. And I'm like, how do I get to that? Right. Rather than recognizing in myself, like I can, Just be happy with where I am.

I have a really great friend who said this to me that really resonated with people-pleasing, which you don't have to hate where you are to want to be better. And when I heard that, I was like, that makes so much sense. And I think we've kind of taught people that you have to like almost hate the way that you show up in the world in order to want to better that.

I have a really great friend who said this to me that really resonated with people-pleasing, which you don't have to hate where you are to want to be better. And when I heard that, I was like, that makes so much sense. And I think we've kind of taught people that you have to like almost hate the way that you show up in the world in order to want to better that.

I have a really great friend who said this to me that really resonated with people-pleasing, which you don't have to hate where you are to want to be better. And when I heard that, I was like, that makes so much sense. And I think we've kind of taught people that you have to like almost hate the way that you show up in the world in order to want to better that.

And I just and I think that causes this idea of how do I measure up and then how do I make everyone else around me happy? Because that's that's really what the world is kind of built on these days.

And I just and I think that causes this idea of how do I measure up and then how do I make everyone else around me happy? Because that's that's really what the world is kind of built on these days.

And I just and I think that causes this idea of how do I measure up and then how do I make everyone else around me happy? Because that's that's really what the world is kind of built on these days.

So I think it's, for me, when it was more of a problem, and I would say that I'm a recovering people pleaser. It's funny, it's one of those things that I don't think ever really goes away. I think you just kind of battle it. But mostly it's an overwhelming sense that you're not enough. And when you're functioning from that place... There's no way you can ever really measure up.

So I think it's, for me, when it was more of a problem, and I would say that I'm a recovering people pleaser. It's funny, it's one of those things that I don't think ever really goes away. I think you just kind of battle it. But mostly it's an overwhelming sense that you're not enough. And when you're functioning from that place... There's no way you can ever really measure up.

So I think it's, for me, when it was more of a problem, and I would say that I'm a recovering people pleaser. It's funny, it's one of those things that I don't think ever really goes away. I think you just kind of battle it. But mostly it's an overwhelming sense that you're not enough. And when you're functioning from that place... There's no way you can ever really measure up.

And there's ways that you can tune that to make it better, right? So if you have something like that, so if you have that kind of inferiority complex plus a superior complex plus impulse control is a great example, you can do great things.

And there's ways that you can tune that to make it better, right? So if you have something like that, so if you have that kind of inferiority complex plus a superior complex plus impulse control is a great example, you can do great things.