Nick Pollard

I've never met a people pleaser that wasn't a liar and I've never met a people pleaser that wasn't aggressive or passive aggressive. Women tend to be more passive aggressive on this side. So, um, The one thing that I can say about, you know, and I weirdly my my practice will shift. It does this weird thing like I'll have guys and then it will stop and then I'll have girls and then it will stop.

I don't know why it doesn't this, but it does. And right now I'm working with mostly women. But what I find mostly in women is they tend to externalize it. as a problem of everyone else where men tend to internalize it as I'm a piece of shit. Yeah. That's interesting. Um, so women will say to me a lot, like if I could only get this person to do this thing, I would be able to set boundaries.

I don't know why it doesn't this, but it does. And right now I'm working with mostly women. But what I find mostly in women is they tend to externalize it. as a problem of everyone else where men tend to internalize it as I'm a piece of shit. Yeah. That's interesting. Um, so women will say to me a lot, like if I could only get this person to do this thing, I would be able to set boundaries.

I don't know why it doesn't this, but it does. And right now I'm working with mostly women. But what I find mostly in women is they tend to externalize it. as a problem of everyone else where men tend to internalize it as I'm a piece of shit. Yeah. That's interesting. Um, so women will say to me a lot, like if I could only get this person to do this thing, I would be able to set boundaries.

I'm like, no, like maybe set boundaries. And then if they don't do the thing, let's move on from that. Whereas men are like, I'm such a piece of shit. I can never sit back.

I'm like, no, like maybe set boundaries. And then if they don't do the thing, let's move on from that. Whereas men are like, I'm such a piece of shit. I can never sit back.

I'm like, no, like maybe set boundaries. And then if they don't do the thing, let's move on from that. Whereas men are like, I'm such a piece of shit. I can never sit back.

I think it shows, I think it rears its ugly head in a lot of ways. And potentially one of the biggest, most toxic ones is in sexuality. You know, The unfortunate news about being a man in this day and age, especially one that happens to look, talk, and act like me, is that I have no voice. And if I do, then I'm also a piece of shit. But if I don't, I'm also a piece of shit.

I think it shows, I think it rears its ugly head in a lot of ways. And potentially one of the biggest, most toxic ones is in sexuality. You know, The unfortunate news about being a man in this day and age, especially one that happens to look, talk, and act like me, is that I have no voice. And if I do, then I'm also a piece of shit. But if I don't, I'm also a piece of shit.

I think it shows, I think it rears its ugly head in a lot of ways. And potentially one of the biggest, most toxic ones is in sexuality. You know, The unfortunate news about being a man in this day and age, especially one that happens to look, talk, and act like me, is that I have no voice. And if I do, then I'm also a piece of shit. But if I don't, I'm also a piece of shit.

There's no way to win in this present environment. But I think... the manosphere isn't helping, um, by any stretch of the imagination. I think this idea of like everybody has to be stoic and if you're not, you know, self denying yourself and if you're not, you know, again, to your point of like, if I'm not deferring my gratification, then, you know, why even show up?

There's no way to win in this present environment. But I think... the manosphere isn't helping, um, by any stretch of the imagination. I think this idea of like everybody has to be stoic and if you're not, you know, self denying yourself and if you're not, you know, again, to your point of like, if I'm not deferring my gratification, then, you know, why even show up?

There's no way to win in this present environment. But I think... the manosphere isn't helping, um, by any stretch of the imagination. I think this idea of like everybody has to be stoic and if you're not, you know, self denying yourself and if you're not, you know, again, to your point of like, if I'm not deferring my gratification, then, you know, why even show up?

And it's, you know, if I don't, if I don't make $300 million a year, I may as well just, you know, hang myself. And it's just, it's all of these kind of giant narratives where It's the loudest, craziest people on every spectrum that get the most notoriety.

And it's, you know, if I don't, if I don't make $300 million a year, I may as well just, you know, hang myself. And it's just, it's all of these kind of giant narratives where It's the loudest, craziest people on every spectrum that get the most notoriety.

And it's, you know, if I don't, if I don't make $300 million a year, I may as well just, you know, hang myself. And it's just, it's all of these kind of giant narratives where It's the loudest, craziest people on every spectrum that get the most notoriety.

So I don't think that's helping, but I think you're touching on something that's very interesting, is that we've redefined masculine as this toxic trait. And Meanwhile, if we don't function in our masculine, we're considered toxic. Or useless. Right. It's either useless or toxic.

So I don't think that's helping, but I think you're touching on something that's very interesting, is that we've redefined masculine as this toxic trait. And Meanwhile, if we don't function in our masculine, we're considered toxic. Or useless. Right. It's either useless or toxic.

So I don't think that's helping, but I think you're touching on something that's very interesting, is that we've redefined masculine as this toxic trait. And Meanwhile, if we don't function in our masculine, we're considered toxic. Or useless. Right. It's either useless or toxic.

Most of my male people pleasers, when I look into that genre, you're going to find that Dr. Glover and I, you know Robert Glover, function in the same realm. The male version of a people pleaser is a nice guy. And very often nice guys were raised in, you know, predominantly female environments where, you know, mom was in control.