Nick Pollard

And when you're a kid and you don't get it, and then you learn to ask, is dangerous, or could get me abandoned, or to stand up for myself means the bully gets bigger, not goes away, right?

Yeah, it's really hard to come back from in that way. Like if you do it long enough, Um, so, and this is, it's interesting you, you come to that because we talked a little bit about, you know, what is the difference between agreeableness and people pleasing? Um, well, at some point you just become agreeable to everything because you, you, it's not that you don't care. It's that you don't know.

Yeah, it's really hard to come back from in that way. Like if you do it long enough, Um, so, and this is, it's interesting you, you come to that because we talked a little bit about, you know, what is the difference between agreeableness and people pleasing? Um, well, at some point you just become agreeable to everything because you, you, it's not that you don't care. It's that you don't know.

Yeah, it's really hard to come back from in that way. Like if you do it long enough, Um, so, and this is, it's interesting you, you come to that because we talked a little bit about, you know, what is the difference between agreeableness and people pleasing? Um, well, at some point you just become agreeable to everything because you, you, it's not that you don't care. It's that you don't know.

Right. So, um, if you ask me on a Tuesday, do you want to go out and get tacos or do you want to go out and get pizza? I'm not going to give a shit either way. Like I, I like food and both those sound great. Right. So that's what agreeable means to me. It's like, I'm happy to just go along and go with flow from time to time. Cause I don't care. Right.

Right. So, um, if you ask me on a Tuesday, do you want to go out and get tacos or do you want to go out and get pizza? I'm not going to give a shit either way. Like I, I like food and both those sound great. Right. So that's what agreeable means to me. It's like, I'm happy to just go along and go with flow from time to time. Cause I don't care. Right.

Right. So, um, if you ask me on a Tuesday, do you want to go out and get tacos or do you want to go out and get pizza? I'm not going to give a shit either way. Like I, I like food and both those sound great. Right. So that's what agreeable means to me. It's like, I'm happy to just go along and go with flow from time to time. Cause I don't care. Right.

But when you do that, because you don't like want to be the issue of the moment,

But when you do that, because you don't like want to be the issue of the moment,

But when you do that, because you don't like want to be the issue of the moment,

um and you do that long enough you're right you you don't have a sense of like what are what do i even like pizza um when was the last time i you know i had an opinion on on god forbid donald trump or or you know joe biden when was the last time i actually spoke up for myself um and this can be hugely powerfully painful at work um you know especially if you're if you've done the corporate environment like i have you know i was a corporate sales monkey for years and um

um and you do that long enough you're right you you don't have a sense of like what are what do i even like pizza um when was the last time i you know i had an opinion on on god forbid donald trump or or you know joe biden when was the last time i actually spoke up for myself um and this can be hugely powerfully painful at work um you know especially if you're if you've done the corporate environment like i have you know i was a corporate sales monkey for years and um

um and you do that long enough you're right you you don't have a sense of like what are what do i even like pizza um when was the last time i you know i had an opinion on on god forbid donald trump or or you know joe biden when was the last time i actually spoke up for myself um and this can be hugely powerfully painful at work um you know especially if you're if you've done the corporate environment like i have you know i was a corporate sales monkey for years and um

I was always number two, never number one. That was always interesting because I didn't want to get... I wanted to be seen, but I didn't want to be that seen, right? And I never stood up for what was right. I never stood up for what I believed. And the eventuality was I burned out in corporate America. And I'm a pretty talented guy. I just couldn't do it anymore. So...

I was always number two, never number one. That was always interesting because I didn't want to get... I wanted to be seen, but I didn't want to be that seen, right? And I never stood up for what was right. I never stood up for what I believed. And the eventuality was I burned out in corporate America. And I'm a pretty talented guy. I just couldn't do it anymore. So...

I was always number two, never number one. That was always interesting because I didn't want to get... I wanted to be seen, but I didn't want to be that seen, right? And I never stood up for what was right. I never stood up for what I believed. And the eventuality was I burned out in corporate America. And I'm a pretty talented guy. I just couldn't do it anymore. So...

Yeah, I think that line gets really blurry. And that's probably one of the first things to go in terms of your self-image is your ability to formulate opinion. I mean, I can't put it on a... I couldn't delineate a timeline. If you started at 16, by the time you're 24, you won't have an opinion anymore.

Yeah, I think that line gets really blurry. And that's probably one of the first things to go in terms of your self-image is your ability to formulate opinion. I mean, I can't put it on a... I couldn't delineate a timeline. If you started at 16, by the time you're 24, you won't have an opinion anymore.

Yeah, I think that line gets really blurry. And that's probably one of the first things to go in terms of your self-image is your ability to formulate opinion. I mean, I can't put it on a... I couldn't delineate a timeline. If you started at 16, by the time you're 24, you won't have an opinion anymore.

But I would say that the first thing you probably start to feel is, I don't know what my interests are and I don't know what my opinions are. And there's really only way to find that out is to... you know, do some journaling and go try some fit.