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Nick Pollard

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Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I will, I have a, I have a boundary around yelling. I don't believe that that's a proper way to communicate. Um, so in my bill of rights is I do not tolerate yelling in conversation. And how does that show up if I enforce it, which is, I would just simply say, Hey, uh, raising your voice with me is not an, is not an option. So we're going to take a break from this.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I'll come back to it in 15 minutes. We both of us have calmed down and that's it. Like, it's not like, it's just, this is what's going to happen.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I'll come back to it in 15 minutes. We both of us have calmed down and that's it. Like, it's not like, it's just, this is what's going to happen.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I'll come back to it in 15 minutes. We both of us have calmed down and that's it. Like, it's not like, it's just, this is what's going to happen.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

so that bill of rights really shows up and it's, it's unfortunate because it's, it sounds a lot like affirmations, like, and one of your, one of your, um, one of your good friends, um, who is a coach to me that doesn't know he's a coach to me is Alex Ramosi. Um, he's the, the sphere of, of, uh, personal growth has been so awesome because I, I have coaches that don't know they're my coaches.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

so that bill of rights really shows up and it's, it's unfortunate because it's, it sounds a lot like affirmations, like, and one of your, one of your, um, one of your good friends, um, who is a coach to me that doesn't know he's a coach to me is Alex Ramosi. Um, he's the, the sphere of, of, uh, personal growth has been so awesome because I, I have coaches that don't know they're my coaches.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

so that bill of rights really shows up and it's, it's unfortunate because it's, it sounds a lot like affirmations, like, and one of your, one of your, um, one of your good friends, um, who is a coach to me that doesn't know he's a coach to me is Alex Ramosi. Um, he's the, the sphere of, of, uh, personal growth has been so awesome because I, I have coaches that don't know they're my coaches.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

Um, and he mentioned at one point, I think it was on your show. He said, you know, Confidence is not about shouting affirmations at yourself in the mirror. So this is sort of in that vein. So it's going against one of my own heroes. It feels much more operational, though.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

Um, and he mentioned at one point, I think it was on your show. He said, you know, Confidence is not about shouting affirmations at yourself in the mirror. So this is sort of in that vein. So it's going against one of my own heroes. It feels much more operational, though.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

Um, and he mentioned at one point, I think it was on your show. He said, you know, Confidence is not about shouting affirmations at yourself in the mirror. So this is sort of in that vein. So it's going against one of my own heroes. It feels much more operational, though.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I explain that really in detail to a lot of people, which is those four levels of learning, which is you start out as unconsciously incompetent. You don't know what you don't know. You move into the conscious competence realm where you do know now what you don't know. And at that point, you have to make a choice. Do I give a shit to learn how to do what I don't know how to do?

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I explain that really in detail to a lot of people, which is those four levels of learning, which is you start out as unconsciously incompetent. You don't know what you don't know. You move into the conscious competence realm where you do know now what you don't know. And at that point, you have to make a choice. Do I give a shit to learn how to do what I don't know how to do?

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I explain that really in detail to a lot of people, which is those four levels of learning, which is you start out as unconsciously incompetent. You don't know what you don't know. You move into the conscious competence realm where you do know now what you don't know. And at that point, you have to make a choice. Do I give a shit to learn how to do what I don't know how to do?

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

And you then become consciously competent where you go, okay, I have to practice this until it's a thing. And at one point you become unconsciously competent where it's, we call those people naturals. Like for instance, you are a natural podcaster. I watched your very first stuff. It was good. It's not this good, right?

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

And you then become consciously competent where you go, okay, I have to practice this until it's a thing. And at one point you become unconsciously competent where it's, we call those people naturals. Like for instance, you are a natural podcaster. I watched your very first stuff. It was good. It's not this good, right?

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

And you then become consciously competent where you go, okay, I have to practice this until it's a thing. And at one point you become unconsciously competent where it's, we call those people naturals. Like for instance, you are a natural podcaster. I watched your very first stuff. It was good. It's not this good, right?

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

If you go back to my original videos, I looked like a monkey fucking a football. It was- I was terrified. I was shirtless in Panama. I thought I was going to be in men's work. The captions were all wrong. It was filmed sideways. It was a disaster.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

If you go back to my original videos, I looked like a monkey fucking a football. It was- I was terrified. I was shirtless in Panama. I thought I was going to be in men's work. The captions were all wrong. It was filmed sideways. It was a disaster.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

If you go back to my original videos, I looked like a monkey fucking a football. It was- I was terrified. I was shirtless in Panama. I thought I was going to be in men's work. The captions were all wrong. It was filmed sideways. It was a disaster.

Modern Wisdom
#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser

I think so. The other thing I tend to say is that when somebody shows you who they are, just believe them. Oh, that's great. It's really simple. If somebody shows you who they are, believe them. It's the easiest way to negate narcissism. If somebody shows up and we talk a lot in the personal growth world, or not even personal growth, but just TikTok and Instagram and all the places that I've