Nick Viall

I think you're making some excuses and you're not looking at it through the lens that if I were you, I would to protect yourself.

And again, you have a real opportunity to see how this man operates as a boyfriend and you're not seeing it that way because it really doesn't matter what his intentions are.

You know, you're doing the game of like, well, I don't really think he means this.

And I wonder what he thinks.

And you're talking to your girlfriends, guessing everything.

his intentions and all that you really need to ask yourself is if I'm his girlfriend, would I be, would I fuck with this?

Like, would I be cool with this?

What are the boxes he's checking?

What professions cheat the most?

Number three is doctors, nurses, and EMTs.

And I would say, you know, those are people who, you know, not all, but I think it requires an immense amount of empathy and care and consideration for other people, you know?

And so again, I don't think it's a black and white thing.

And I think again, like you could be a police officer, the service industry is up there too, like in service to others, you know, to protect and serve, you know, you can be, there's just a lot of complicated people out there, right.

Who have dedicated their lives to the service of others and fill in

endeavors and they're just really bad partners.

So I think it's, you know, I mean, the good thing is that you're saying check the box and I don't think you're too far off because it's just a box you're checking, but you're not really getting to know these people.

And as I, you know, I've said in my book, a bunch of, you know, I'm saying my book and I say it a lot of times, but like chemistry is,

You're describing things that are why you have chemistry with this guy.

He's attractive, of course.

You're gonna have chemistry with people you find attractive.