Nick Viall

How helpful are they going to be?

You want someone who's willing to raise their hand and say, how can I help?

And he is, doesn't sound like that kind of guy.

I'm sorry as well.

Charming in the life of the, yeah.

Like this is not about, he's popular and cool or whatever.

And he might be capable of growing up.

My point is, is if you want to stay in this relationship, if it's, and you're like, you're only 22.

So then you, you know, make sure you ask yourself, what are my relationship goals?

You know, your goals can change, but like as a motivated 22 year old who, who likes to work and wants to prioritize, I don't know, maybe like marriage and kids is like, isn't on the table for the next five or six years.

And at the end of the day, maybe what's the point of, um,

I'm still investing in something where it's just like, even if I marry him, it's not going to be forever.

I don't know.

Those are fair questions to ask yourself.

In the meantime, while you are with him, it's important that you figure out whether he has the ability to check himself, make some moves, hear your feedback, and want to prove to himself and to you that he can grind.

He can grind.

He can do the uncomfortable things because life is not comfortable

And we don't always have mommy and daddy to take care of us.

What's his thing?

What's his thing?