Nicole Kalil

So much of the content is the stuff I share from the stage.

So there's a lot that was, again, really easy and sort of already written from all the work that I'd done preparing to do speaking engagements.

Interestingly enough, the first three chapters were the hardest because it was more the sharing of the why and the personal stories and the things that I don't talk about a lot from the stage.

The other thing that is important is the subtitle of the book is How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con.

And it went back and forth in my mind of whether to write this book with women in mind for women, as opposed to like more of a general audience.

And one of the reasons I wanted to write a book and one of the reasons I ended up going in that direction is because I'd read a stat that 92% of business books are written by men.

And I just had this like moment of like, okay, we need to, as women be adding our voices into this conversation about what it is to create success, what it is to build a business, what it is to be confident as a professional, right?

And so that was really important to me.

I do hope anyone of any gender would read my book and get a ton out of it.

But I did want to write something very specifically with women in mind.

And I don't know if you'd agree with this or not, Heather.

I find that there are nuances as it relates to building confidence for women and men.

Some of the things that are chipping away at women's confidence is different than what's chipping away at men.

And some of the ways that we might build confidence might be different or nuanced compared to our male counterparts.

So I just wanted to be relevant in that space and be able to dig deep in that.

I call the confidence con this lie that I believe we've all been told and frankly, mostly have bought into that confidence is something that comes to us from an external source.

So that we gain confidence from someone or something outside of it, us.

Something like when I get this promotion, I'll feel confident.

When I make this level of income, then I'll feel confident.

When my children are perfectly behaved, then I'll feel confident.