Nicole Lappin

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Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin · Does Your Spouse Need Money Rehab? Here's What To Do · 2 Jun 2025 podcast

In the meantime, my wife has had the same job as before, and while I've spoken to her about budgets like your 70-15-15, etc., she seems to have very little interest in budgeting or a career upgrade.

Her job is extremely convenient with the kids when she gets the summer off, but where we live in southern Ontario, it's a lot harder to get ahead with one good income, at least not without a solid budget. Thank you very much. Well, first of all, thank you very much, Cole. Thank you so much for this question and for sharing it with me.

I know navigating this situation is probably not easy, but I hope you've taken a moment to give yourself a pat on the back for all of the successful money rehab that you've been doing over the years. Your future self will definitely thank you, but your present self should thank you too.

It sounds like you've already tried to talk to your wife about things like budgeting, but have these chats been in passing or have they been sit down chats where you plot your awesome life together? If it's the former, you need to start doing a little bit of the latter. But just because the conversation needs to be more intentional doesn't mean it needs to be less fun.

Something that might work for you is to frame the conversation around what you've been dreaming of for the next 5, 10, 50 years. I'd start with the conversation about what you both want retirement to look like and then reverse engineer from there.

A good exercise for the two of you to do together would be look at the way I outline three different levels of wealth so that you can start talking through desires, goals and expectations for retirement. The first level of wealth is affectionately called rich enough where your super basic expenses are covered. Think brown rice and beans diet. without any frills.

If you feel best though, maintaining your current lifestyle complete with occasional splurges like dieting out or buying designer shoes, amazing. It is the pretty rich life for you. Being pretty rich in retirement allows you to live comfortably with some indulgences, but doesn't factor in a ton of future growth.

And finally, we have the super rich level, which entails more money than you can reasonably spend, AKA baller status. If you two don't get the exact same answer here, that's okay. Talk through what a compromise might look like.

If she's good with maintaining your current lifestyle, which it sounds like she is, talk about what goals for retirement are important to you, and perhaps she'll catch your excitement. Maybe you want to live on the beach in the Maldives for a year. That would be hard to not get stoked about.

Once you've reached a compromise on what you want your retirement lifestyle to look like, the next step is to crunch the numbers to see how much you'll actually need to save in order to achieve that lifestyle. I go through this calculation at length in an episode that I linked in the show notes, but for now, I'm just going to give you some loose numbers that we can tweak.

If you both end up wanting to pursue the rich enough lifestyle, you should have about $700,000 saved by the time you retire. If it's the pretty rich lifestyle that you're after, aim for 1.3 million in your retirement account. If you are the super rich type, you're going to need to aim for something more in the $2 million range so you could live out your days in the Tuscan sun or wherever.

Once you know how much money you'll need to have your dream life in retirement, you'll be able to calculate how much you're on track to have squirreled away by then. Maybe you'll discover that just through your own leapfrogging coal, you've set yourself and your family up for success in retirement. But more realistically, reaching your retirement goal is going to be a group project.

I'd start by thinking of a few ways your wife could level up the finances in a way that feels like a low lift for her right now. You can always build on these good habits together, but the most important thing is helping her catch the money rehab bug, which you have so clearly caught. Here are three ideas. Number one, embrace seasonal opportunities.

Now, her summertime availability could be the perfect time for exploring interests or talents that could translate into additional income from creative side hustles to seasonal positions that align with her passions. Do a little brainstorming solo and then in your next money talk, come prepared with a suggestion.

If after doing a retirement goals exercise together, you've determined that you will need more money and more income streams to have that dreamy retirement. I'm sure she'll be open to some of these ideas. Number two, approach financial literacy as a joint venture. Often a disinterest in financial planning stems from feeling daunted by the subject.

Tackle this together by delving into, gosh, I don't know, your favorite podcast, Money Rehab. I've done a bunch of episodes on asking for a raise, which I have linked in the show notes. The next time you and your wife are in the car together, just maybe casually put on one of these episodes and ask her what she thinks. I'm sure it will inspire her because of course it will.

Number three, tap into the magic of automation. If your wife is having a hard time sticking to a budget that factors in contributions to a retirement account, talk to her about automating transfers from her paychecks to savings or investment accounts. That way, she doesn't have to actively think about her budget every single time she swipes her credit card.

And instead, she can take a set it and forget it approach by automating savings and investing so that she sticks to a budget without even noticing it. Living your best financial life is all about crafting a narrative that includes chapters written by both of you.

By fostering open dialogue, setting clear money goals tied to your retirement dreams, and working on some accessible entry points for financial involvement, your financial journey won't be marked by just one of you steering the ship, but by both of you navigating those financial seas together toward a horizon filled with lovely dreams and goals.

toward financial growth together is a lot less about having all the answers and more about discovering them together. It's a journey marked by patience, understanding, and mutual support. And if that isn't the point of marriage, I don't know what is. For today's tip, you can take straight to the bank.

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