Nicole LePera

Can I begin to care for myself in action?

Because a lot of times the critical shaming voice

aligns with the self-neglecting, abandoning behaviors.

And so can I then show up even if my mind isn't believing that I'm worthy of care?

Can I show myself through setting a boundary, through asserting myself, maybe from just giving myself a moment of rest or care or nutritious meal?

Can I in action begin to live a different reality before that voice maybe catches up?

having the bath and you have to ride it out and almost practice I guess because the more you do it the more you realize oh this is okay nothing bad happened after I had the bath there was no awful repercussion from having a bath on a Tuesday that's so so wise that's exactly right so mine it wouldn't be necessarily shaming it would be I have too much to do right I have a to-do list I have emails either things that are stressful that I want to chuck off the to-do list so I can then relax or things that I'm excited about and so it would always be this not the time not the time

Rest when you're done.

And then I realize, no, the reason I can't rest is because my body isn't rested in this moment.

Can I slow my breathing to be in the bath a little bit?

Can I release the tension?

Can I put some Epsom salt in and actually just tune into my muscles beginning to relax?

But actually also, can I tolerate the discomfort of not resting?

Acting in that habitual way of not springing into action or doing like you and I are both describing because that's the most important piece of it.

Yeah, we have to tolerate the discomfort.

Imagine now our mind won't know what to predict.

What will happen?

Will someone show up?

What will they say?

And when none of that happens or it does?