Nicole LePera

Because what happens to anger over time, it accumulates as resentment.

it turns into contempt for the other person i think it's dr john gottlieb has kind of verified in couples research that that is what leads to the disintegration of relationships either because we don't feel right authentically attuned and connected to because we're not right all those years i spent being stoic fine communicating distance to people i felt alone in a crowded room i blamed my partners i thought if i just find the right person i'll feel differently and i didn't see the role that i was playing in that disconnection

that I was creating so to be honest with oneself and to say I mean how many of us say I'm fine and we're not fine and maybe the first step is to say I'm not fine I don't know what I am right now I'll get back to you yeah but I'm not fine and so for me I'd giggle when you were saying that because there were so many moments at the beginning of my journey when I saw all of the different relationships personal my family that I watered myself down I started to practice saying the thing

I would write it, text it and throw my phone across the room and then not want to go look at it, you know, because I was like, I said it, I'm done here.

But I was so what I was afraid not was saying it.

It was what I was afraid was on the other side of saying it.

And I even have seen this as my evolution in my professional world.

I was so scared.

I started to evolve my practice.

I started to understand how traditional therapy wasn't working.

I started to apply a more holistic approach.

I started to do differently in my life.

My relationship that I thought was always going to be with anxiety was actually starting to change.

I was so motivated.

I started to see clients privately and I was doing the holistic work with them.

And everyone was starting to make little shifts in their behaviors and get better, so to speak.

And I was watching the online world.

And I was sharing with my partner, Lolly, who I went from so unfulfilled.

I want to run away from this life I've created because I'm not feeling connected to it.

No one's getting better.