Nicole

Like, I struggle personally with either completely ignoring them because I feel awkward or maybe trying too hard.

So I don't know how to practically interact with her when we're in the same room.

Yes.

So I have a history of stepping out sexually to meet my deep needs.

and trauma.

There was a lot of unprocessed things I didn't deal with, and I brought it into the marriage.

And I fully take responsibility, but I know that there were things in the marriage that triggered those things, and I didn't deal with it in a healthy way, so I decided to have the affair.

But the biggest thing was just a deep lack of emotional connection with my husband.

And so I was seeking that elsewhere.

It's that deep feeling of like being known and being disconnected, like on an intimate level.

He, unfortunately, he's a great guy, like he really is, but he struggles with deep.

Being beat and being past surface level just because of its own trauma.

Yes, I can relate to that.

I did a, yeah, I did a program.

I've been going to a therapist.

So it's been a lot of hard, hard work.

So, what is your suggestion for continually growing in, like, the worse aspects of it?

No, that's definitely good.

I mean, because it's the, I think that's the hardest part is the shame, you know?

Yeah, that sounds right.