Nir Eyal

A portfolio of perspectives.

Because right now I only had one belief.

My belief was my mother is too judgmental and hard to please.

It's the only perspective I had.

Now what you do is you do a turnaround to create more potential beliefs, to see if any of those might be more helpful.

Because remember, beliefs are tools, not truths.

So we don't want to just use a tool just because that's what we've always used, right?

A carpenter doesn't say, oh, I've used a hammer before, so everything I do I have to hammer.

No, sometimes you use a screwdriver, sometimes you use a wrench, sometimes you use a saw, based on the job, which one is helpful.

So to do a turnaround, we ask ourselves if the exact opposite could also be true.

So what's the exact opposite of my mother is too judgmental and hard to please?

My mother is not too judgmental and hard to please.

Could that be true?

Could be true.

Yeah, like maybe she was just trying to be helpful, right?

It could be that maybe she wasn't being too judgmental and hard to please.

Okay, that's perspective number two.

Let's go deeper.

This is called a turnaround to the self.

Instead of my mother is too judgmental and hard to please, could it be true that I am too judgmental and hard to please?