Oprah Winfrey

We will change jobs.

Building friendships is a skill and it's a skill we can learn.

My question for you is, is this person that you're talking about someone that you need in your life?

Is this someone that you work with or you have in close proximity that you can't get away from?

Because you deserve a reciprocal relationship.

And I think you know that.

So I guess my first question to you is, do you have to be around this person?

Yeah.

Oprah and I were talking about this whole flake culture.

Yes.

And how corrosive it is for building trusting relationships.

So I'm happy to hear you have a low tolerance for it, too, actually.

That's what that means.

And so...

When I was your age and I was moving cities and changing and had to make new friends, one of the ways that I was able to find friends who shared my values were doing things that sort of reflected my values.

So for example, I work with the homeless here in New York, and so I was volunteering.

And so I was able to meet people who at their core had the same interests.

And so I wonder if where you're looking for friendships could be shifted so that it reflects more about who you are and what matters most to you and look for the people there.

Keep going and you are right to think that you are worthy of a friendship that's reciprocal.

And I'm so happy to hear that you're working on yourself because what I have found in my research is that we need to learn how to matter to ourselves.