Oprah Winfrey

Reboot your social life.

You have agency.

Yeah.

That is a big message in the book, that if you are feeling like you don't matter, you need to know you are one decision, you are one step away from mattering again.

That's right.

Why did you include the story in the book, Jenny?

It resonated so much with me.

You don't have to be a military spouse to feel that feeling of being so necessary to so many other people and yet your needs not being prioritized.

And I think what Simone hits on is something that we don't talk enough about in our culture, which is the idea that our resilience...

rests on the depth and support of our relationships.

So we are sold this bill of goods by the multi-billion dollar wellness industry to download, to light a candle or to soak in a bubble bath and you'll be resilient.

Those are great stress reducers, but they do not give us the resilience we need to show up day in and day out.

as the sturdy adults that we wanna be, for the people that we care about.

It's only in our deep relationships.

And decades of research show this, that resilience rests on relationships.

And Simone's story shows just that.

Oh, well, thank you first for telling your story.

And I have to say, I'm glad you were validated through the people on TikTok because what you're describing is not uncommon.

Even throughout our entire lives, we will struggle to make new friends.

We will relocate.