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a serious problematic news as a global community, let alone in our own society.

So I think that is the first thing, but it's a really brave thing to do.

It's such a brave thing, but I think the life that you want to live is on the other side of it.

It does take courage and it seems blasé for...

know folks like you and me to say it but we were in it we were in that trench and i genuinely thought i would never get out of it i thought that this was my life that it was done but everything that i knew was breaking down and it came with this as the center of my life this had been a thread through my entire life

from childhood well into adulthood and trying to remove yourself from something that has been a crutch for your whole life, the thing that you've always gone to, the thing that's been a constant, the first relationship you've ever been in, in my case, that is, it seems impossible to strip it away from you, but you can.

I think it really is about speaking about what good, healthy,

having a good healthy relationship with sex discussion communication openness lack of judgment teaching what sexual values look like doing that age appropriately early and often yeah is the only way to create a foundation for what those kids believe and then what they inherit into adulthood

We've got to start doing that because with the way that they inherit life and look at life through the digital lens right now, when it comes to this kind of material, it is like rocket fuel.

And if we haven't given them the steer, the guidance, the ability to go wrong and come back and figure out how to make those mistakes right,

They're only going to fall into an abyss that is already there waiting to reel them in.

And whilst it seems catastrophic, and I think so much of what we talked about today feels like it's beyond hope.

It feels like trying to take on big tech and trying to take on AI and trying to take on these algorithms is a hopeless task for a parent.

What can you do?

There's no scripts.

They're on their phones all the time.

There's a fight and a tussle between your kids to try and get them off it.

They're going to be out of your eyesight for longer than they're in it and take it to their rooms.

But the only thing that we can do, our responsibility is to allow our kids the best possibility of making a good choice, whether it is crossing the road or how they use their phones.

They're going to at one point be doing it on their own.