Pallavi Gogoi

So there's an intentionality and a thoughtfulness that they bring to their motherhood that has been so striking to me.

You know, all parents need to really get it together, but it's even more so for parents on their own.

That's so true.

Another mom I talked to, her name is Adrienne Rumley.

She says that, you know, she was in her mid-30s and she was kind of drifting.

And then she got pregnant with her daughter.

It's just me and her.

Lorelai is now two years old.

Rumley told me she got pregnant with a new boyfriend she barely knew.

He didn't want the baby, so he offered to pay for an abortion.

No, no, no, no.

That's not what I wanted to do.

After that interaction, he hung up and blocked her.

But you know, that didn't stop Ramli.

She saw the pregnancy as an opportunity to start her own family.

You know, Ayesha, this is a moment when the definition of family is part of the culture wars.

I've spoken to women who have had to navigate their very conservative Christian families who disapprove of them choosing to raise a family on their own.

In Rumley's case, she decides not to have an abortion.

But a single mom raising her own kid is probably not exactly some people's definition of a wholesome family either.

But Adrienne Rumley, she goes for it.