Paul Brunson

If you have one going off this way, one going off this way, you can't plow the land. You can't produce. So the Bible says you need to have a partner who is equally yoked. Pastors then interpreted that over the years to be what? Values. You need to have a partner who shares your values, has the same religion, has the same accent. This is how we became regimented in class.

If you have one going off this way, one going off this way, you can't plow the land. You can't produce. So the Bible says you need to have a partner who is equally yoked. Pastors then interpreted that over the years to be what? Values. You need to have a partner who shares your values, has the same religion, has the same accent. This is how we became regimented in class.

This happened century after century after century, right? We get to today, you ask anyone on the street, we grab 10 people, nine out of 10 would say, and we said, how important are values? Nine out of 10 would say, values is everything. What? Values change. They change. I value things much differently today than I did 10 years ago. Our values change. They're not constant.

This happened century after century after century, right? We get to today, you ask anyone on the street, we grab 10 people, nine out of 10 would say, and we said, how important are values? Nine out of 10 would say, values is everything. What? Values change. They change. I value things much differently today than I did 10 years ago. Our values change. They're not constant.

We need to throw away values. Are they important? Yes. Are they the most important? No. So therefore, let's de-emphasize the focusing on finding someone who matches all of our values. Instead, well-being, key. Are they focused on their well-being? That's one. Two, yeah, values is important. But you know what's equally, if not more, is, you know what, how open-minded are they?

We need to throw away values. Are they important? Yes. Are they the most important? No. So therefore, let's de-emphasize the focusing on finding someone who matches all of our values. Instead, well-being, key. Are they focused on their well-being? That's one. Two, yeah, values is important. But you know what's equally, if not more, is, you know what, how open-minded are they?

How much do they lean in? How curious are they? And then the third is how resilient are they? Because having a relationship with anyone means tough times. So are they able to bounce back? Or when things get tough, do they just lay on their back?

How much do they lean in? How curious are they? And then the third is how resilient are they? Because having a relationship with anyone means tough times. So are they able to bounce back? Or when things get tough, do they just lay on their back?

So if you have a partner who's resilient, you have a partner who's open-minded, you have a partner who's focused and nurturing their well-being, you have a great partner.

So if you have a partner who's resilient, you have a partner who's open-minded, you have a partner who's focused and nurturing their well-being, you have a great partner.

What about ambition? Does that matter?

What about ambition? Does that matter?

I think ambition is a value set.

I think ambition is a value set.

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Yeah, I just wonder, because a lot of people would say that they want that in a partner, but... just by running the mental numbers, not everybody can be ambitious. And people that aren't necessarily hugely ambitious also find love and keep love. But when you ask someone what they're looking for, they'll tend to have a preference towards someone who's ambitious or goal-orientated.

Yeah, I just wonder, because a lot of people would say that they want that in a partner, but... just by running the mental numbers, not everybody can be ambitious. And people that aren't necessarily hugely ambitious also find love and keep love. But when you ask someone what they're looking for, they'll tend to have a preference towards someone who's ambitious or goal-orientated.