Paul Brunson

And I think this is important because sometimes we believe that we're fixed or cured because we have information that we're going to act upon it at all times. But the wiring is so deep.

And I think this is important because sometimes we believe that we're fixed or cured because we have information that we're going to act upon it at all times. But the wiring is so deep.

It is. And it is a continuum. It never ends. And to your point, this is the work. The work is that mental energy, right, that you had to go through. You were doing this, I think Dr. Julie Smith talks about it, metacognition is really what you're doing, having the thought about the thought. And that is tiring.

It is. And it is a continuum. It never ends. And to your point, this is the work. The work is that mental energy, right, that you had to go through. You were doing this, I think Dr. Julie Smith talks about it, metacognition is really what you're doing, having the thought about the thought. And that is tiring.

It's exhausting.

It's exhausting.

To do that all the time is exhausting. But that's the price, right? that you're paying to have the relationship. That's the work.

To do that all the time is exhausting. But that's the price, right? that you're paying to have the relationship. That's the work.

Yeah. And she's worth it. Yeah. People that listen to this podcast will know that, like, you know, when I talk about marriage and stuff, it's not anything to do with her in particular. In fact, she's the person that's made me want to get married. She's the person that's made me agnostic before I was against it. Now I'm like, it doesn't really matter. If she wants it, then I don't really care. Yeah.

Yeah. And she's worth it. Yeah. People that listen to this podcast will know that, like, you know, when I talk about marriage and stuff, it's not anything to do with her in particular. In fact, she's the person that's made me want to get married. She's the person that's made me agnostic before I was against it. Now I'm like, it doesn't really matter. If she wants it, then I don't really care. Yeah.

So I'm saying all of this in spite of the fact that I believe I'm with the perfect person. Yes. And when I say perfect, I mean perfectly imperfect as well. Yes. As I am to her. But I just couldn't imagine ever finding anyone better. So I'm saying all of this in spite of that, just in case anyone was wondering. And I genuinely mean that. Like, I wouldn't say it otherwise.

So I'm saying all of this in spite of the fact that I believe I'm with the perfect person. Yes. And when I say perfect, I mean perfectly imperfect as well. Yes. As I am to her. But I just couldn't imagine ever finding anyone better. So I'm saying all of this in spite of that, just in case anyone was wondering. And I genuinely mean that. Like, I wouldn't say it otherwise.

I'm not saying that just for the sake of it. My friends know this too. My friends all believe and I believe that she is. There's no one I'm ever going to find that's better than her.

I'm not saying that just for the sake of it. My friends know this too. My friends all believe and I believe that she is. There's no one I'm ever going to find that's better than her.

Few more questions that I had that emerged from reading your book, which, by the way, is superb. Thank you. Thank you. I have to say it is published by Flight Books, and there's probably some kind of disclaimer I have to give for the ASA. Come for me. So that's a hashtag ad. One of the ones that was quite provocative to me is this question. Should you keep secrets from your partner?

Few more questions that I had that emerged from reading your book, which, by the way, is superb. Thank you. Thank you. I have to say it is published by Flight Books, and there's probably some kind of disclaimer I have to give for the ASA. Come for me. So that's a hashtag ad. One of the ones that was quite provocative to me is this question. Should you keep secrets from your partner?

This is big. Yes. Yes.

This is big. Yes. Yes.

There are quite a few studies on a concept called selective disclosure. And a matter of fact, one of, I think, the most provocative, compelling studies on selective disclosure looked at many, many couples, and one couple or one group was told to be entirely transparent to your partner. So tell them everything, every issue, every concern that pops into your mind, tell them, right?

There are quite a few studies on a concept called selective disclosure. And a matter of fact, one of, I think, the most provocative, compelling studies on selective disclosure looked at many, many couples, and one couple or one group was told to be entirely transparent to your partner. So tell them everything, every issue, every concern that pops into your mind, tell them, right?