Paul Brunson

And one thing I'd learned probably from doing this podcast and speaking to you was that assume people can't read your mind. Yes. So brief them. Yes. Like if you're going to be a bit strange, if you're going to be a bit focused, let them know ahead of time. So I'd sat her down and said, listen, for this period of time here, I'm going to be a bit weird.

And one thing I'd learned probably from doing this podcast and speaking to you was that assume people can't read your mind. Yes. So brief them. Yes. Like if you're going to be a bit strange, if you're going to be a bit focused, let them know ahead of time. So I'd sat her down and said, listen, for this period of time here, I'm going to be a bit weird.

And I'd asked her to lower her expectations on me.

And I'd asked her to lower her expectations on me.

Which I think is a pretty like forward thinking thing to do. And within a short period of time, we had had a disagreement, a moment of conflict because... upon like, while I was working on this thing, on the third bid for attention, I had seemingly ignored it, which caused a spiral. And I hate when you ignore me.

Which I think is a pretty like forward thinking thing to do. And within a short period of time, we had had a disagreement, a moment of conflict because... upon like, while I was working on this thing, on the third bid for attention, I had seemingly ignored it, which caused a spiral. And I hate when you ignore me.

And I'd said, listen, I told you, I was, I sat you, literally sat you down night before and in the morning and had a conversation with you just to tell you what was going on and how I needed to focus on this thing.

And I'd said, listen, I told you, I was, I sat you, literally sat you down night before and in the morning and had a conversation with you just to tell you what was going on and how I needed to focus on this thing.

So I thought the reason why I didn't want to apologize was because I thought I did everything I thought I was supposed to do. Like I thought I'd let the person know, told them exactly what's let them in on it, let them know what was going on in my nervous system, let them know what was going on in my mind.

So I thought the reason why I didn't want to apologize was because I thought I did everything I thought I was supposed to do. Like I thought I'd let the person know, told them exactly what's let them in on it, let them know what was going on in my nervous system, let them know what was going on in my mind.

And we still ended up in this like situation where there was a bid for attention and I wasn't quite there, but I'd literally said, I'm not, I'm probably not going to be very present right now. Yes. So I thought, well, what could I have done in future to, Well, what more could I have done in that situation?

And we still ended up in this like situation where there was a bid for attention and I wasn't quite there, but I'd literally said, I'm not, I'm probably not going to be very present right now. Yes. So I thought, well, what could I have done in future to, Well, what more could I have done in that situation?

So I thought maybe I shouldn't be apologizing here because I actually don't know what commitment I can make. So then do you just not apologize then? You just didn't apologize. So we were in therapy. We were in like the couples therapy thing. Okay. So I was telling the therapist this to see what their perspective was. And they didn't. I think they kind of sided with me. Really?

So I thought maybe I shouldn't be apologizing here because I actually don't know what commitment I can make. So then do you just not apologize then? You just didn't apologize. So we were in therapy. We were in like the couples therapy thing. Okay. So I was telling the therapist this to see what their perspective was. And they didn't. I think they kind of sided with me. Really?

I think they started with me, and then my partner ended up apologizing, which is quite rad because I typically think that I should apologize.

I think they started with me, and then my partner ended up apologizing, which is quite rad because I typically think that I should apologize.

Okay.

Okay.

Well, so I may have a different take then. Okay, please. One is... You have – you're clear that your partner is anxious.

Well, so I may have a different take then. Okay, please. One is... You have – you're clear that your partner is anxious.