Paul Brunson

I thought they were two separate incidents. I thought, look up, smile, and then I need to go get them headphones. Yeah. because I need to focus on writing this thing.

I thought they were two separate incidents. I thought, look up, smile, and then I need to go get them headphones. Yeah. because I need to focus on writing this thing.

No, no. When a bid comes through, when a bid comes through, and we know, Godmans talk about this all the time, when the bid comes through is, it's important to affirm the bid. But this is a great opportunity to discuss what affirming a bid is. You know, what would, in that moment, what would have been enough for her to feel reassured? Have that conversation.

No, no. When a bid comes through, when a bid comes through, and we know, Godmans talk about this all the time, when the bid comes through is, it's important to affirm the bid. But this is a great opportunity to discuss what affirming a bid is. You know, what would, in that moment, what would have been enough for her to feel reassured? Have that conversation.

Maybe she would have said, right before you picked up the headphones, A hug or a kiss on the cheek would have been great. I would be good, right? And so to be aware of what it means to be reaffirmed is so important. Or should I say affirmed is so important. So in this case, if I were you, I would apologize. And do that investigation around... what affirming means.

Maybe she would have said, right before you picked up the headphones, A hug or a kiss on the cheek would have been great. I would be good, right? And so to be aware of what it means to be reaffirmed is so important. Or should I say affirmed is so important. So in this case, if I were you, I would apologize. And do that investigation around... what affirming means.

Because everyone needs to be affirmed, you know, differently.

Because everyone needs to be affirmed, you know, differently.

I'll apologize to her, I promise you. But no, it's good. I'm seeing her tonight, so I'll just let her know that I've got a slightly different perspective on it now.

I'll apologize to her, I promise you. But no, it's good. I'm seeing her tonight, so I'll just let her know that I've got a slightly different perspective on it now.

I love it.

I love it.

Let's go for one more myth. Okay. Okay, let's go for two more. All right. Because this one's a prevailing one that I've been exposed to in my relationships. Should you go to bed angry at your partner?

Let's go for one more myth. Okay. Okay, let's go for two more. All right. Because this one's a prevailing one that I've been exposed to in my relationships. Should you go to bed angry at your partner?

This is perhaps the most believed myth ever. Period. We always hear this. Just apologize. And it's not just in romantic relationships. You know, I noticed this all the time when I was in school, when I was younger, is if there was a disagreement or an argument, the teacher would say, just apologize, right? I played football, American football.

This is perhaps the most believed myth ever. Period. We always hear this. Just apologize. And it's not just in romantic relationships. You know, I noticed this all the time when I was in school, when I was younger, is if there was a disagreement or an argument, the teacher would say, just apologize, right? I played football, American football.

And, you know, the coach would say, just, you know, just swipe it, like, just make up. And you think about that. And what we're saying is that If you appear to be in harmony, you have a great relationship. But we know that's a falsehood. In actuality, the key is that if you are able to fully manage what is happening, be aware, acknowledge, make adjustments around the conflict, then at that point,

And, you know, the coach would say, just, you know, just swipe it, like, just make up. And you think about that. And what we're saying is that If you appear to be in harmony, you have a great relationship. But we know that's a falsehood. In actuality, the key is that if you are able to fully manage what is happening, be aware, acknowledge, make adjustments around the conflict, then at that point,

You are living in a true harmonious relationship and a healthy relationship. So whenever people say, oh, we got into disagreement, just make up before bed, I think that is some of the most disastrous advice you can have. Why? Because you're going to be – like you just get into an argument, you're going to be entirely distressed, entirely distressed.

You are living in a true harmonious relationship and a healthy relationship. So whenever people say, oh, we got into disagreement, just make up before bed, I think that is some of the most disastrous advice you can have. Why? Because you're going to be – like you just get into an argument, you're going to be entirely distressed, entirely distressed.