Paul Brunson

And then what kind of response are you going to give? you're going to give the worst qualitative response that you can. Will you reconcile what's happening? Absolutely not. A profound study around this, researchers divided two groups of people. One group they showed distressing images to, terrible images, terrible, right? And the other group, they showed the same images.

And then what kind of response are you going to give? you're going to give the worst qualitative response that you can. Will you reconcile what's happening? Absolutely not. A profound study around this, researchers divided two groups of people. One group they showed distressing images to, terrible images, terrible, right? And the other group, they showed the same images.

However, the second group was allowed to sleep for eight hours. At the end of eight hours, so group one can't sleep, group two saw the distressing images, they can sleep. At the end of the eight hours, They then track the reaction to the images. What do you think happens?

However, the second group was allowed to sleep for eight hours. At the end of eight hours, so group one can't sleep, group two saw the distressing images, they can sleep. At the end of the eight hours, They then track the reaction to the images. What do you think happens?

The group that didn't sleep, that didn't rest, that didn't get regulated, they report a much higher level of distress around the images. The group that is reporting back that had sleep, they're regulated. They're able to look at images. the images differently. It's the same image, but they're not as distressed.

The group that didn't sleep, that didn't rest, that didn't get regulated, they report a much higher level of distress around the images. The group that is reporting back that had sleep, they're regulated. They're able to look at images. the images differently. It's the same image, but they're not as distressed.

The point here is that the best thing that we can do to give ourselves regulation is a cooling off period. Sleep on it. So you should go to bed angry. You should go to bed angry. And when you wake up, resolve it.

The point here is that the best thing that we can do to give ourselves regulation is a cooling off period. Sleep on it. So you should go to bed angry. You should go to bed angry. And when you wake up, resolve it.

The brain does wonderful things in your sleep, doesn't it? It really helps to sort of unpack things and make sense of things and rationalize things better. But also, obviously, it's regulating hormones and the brain in a way, which I guess will make you make more rational decisions the next morning, not from the amygdala, but from the logic centers of your brain.

The brain does wonderful things in your sleep, doesn't it? It really helps to sort of unpack things and make sense of things and rationalize things better. But also, obviously, it's regulating hormones and the brain in a way, which I guess will make you make more rational decisions the next morning, not from the amygdala, but from the logic centers of your brain.

Exactly. Rest is a superpower, and we don't use it enough.

Exactly. Rest is a superpower, and we don't use it enough.

Last myth then. If someone cheats on you. Okay. Is that the end of the relationship?

Last myth then. If someone cheats on you. Okay. Is that the end of the relationship?

No. Or at least it doesn't have to be. It doesn't have to be. I've referred to the Gottmans a lot. And I think the reason why is because, you know, they really did, starting in the 1970s, change couples therapy, right? Where couples therapy primarily between like the 1950s and 70s was about these interventions when your relationship was doomed and it was about to be over.

No. Or at least it doesn't have to be. It doesn't have to be. I've referred to the Gottmans a lot. And I think the reason why is because, you know, they really did, starting in the 1970s, change couples therapy, right? Where couples therapy primarily between like the 1950s and 70s was about these interventions when your relationship was doomed and it was about to be over.

So it was a last ditch effort was to go to these therapists. But the Gottmans came along and said, no, you could build these skills. You could build these tools to help you all the way through your relationship no matter at what stage you're in. But they also spend a lot of time in what I call these existential issues like cheating.

So it was a last ditch effort was to go to these therapists. But the Gottmans came along and said, no, you could build these skills. You could build these tools to help you all the way through your relationship no matter at what stage you're in. But they also spend a lot of time in what I call these existential issues like cheating.

And from their research, they show that 70 percent of people who go through cheating their process can end up having a higher level of satisfaction. The key though is around the ability to truly forgive your partner. And what I say all the time with infidelity, whether it may be emotional infidelity or physical infidelity,

And from their research, they show that 70 percent of people who go through cheating their process can end up having a higher level of satisfaction. The key though is around the ability to truly forgive your partner. And what I say all the time with infidelity, whether it may be emotional infidelity or physical infidelity,