Paul Brunson
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is go see a professional first, especially if you've built what you consider to be something profound and special with your partner. They believe it's profound and special. And in particular, they want to fight and you have an awareness for how special it is. Go see a professional because seeing a professional literally can put you back on track to have a phenomenal relationship.
is go see a professional first, especially if you've built what you consider to be something profound and special with your partner. They believe it's profound and special. And in particular, they want to fight and you have an awareness for how special it is. Go see a professional because seeing a professional literally can put you back on track to have a phenomenal relationship.
Question I didn't think I was going to ask you, but I probably should ask you based on that because we're talking about infidelity. What about digital infidelity? Only fans. Only fans. Is that infidelity? Does pornography count as infidelity?
Question I didn't think I was going to ask you, but I probably should ask you based on that because we're talking about infidelity. What about digital infidelity? Only fans. Only fans. Is that infidelity? Does pornography count as infidelity?
Well, long story short, it depends on who you ask. Most people that I talk to qualify that as infidelity. If you're not disclosing to your partner that you're doing it. So if you are out here on OnlyFans or a full pornographic site and you do not disclose to your partner that this is something that you do – that's infidelity. That's cheating, right?
Well, long story short, it depends on who you ask. Most people that I talk to qualify that as infidelity. If you're not disclosing to your partner that you're doing it. So if you are out here on OnlyFans or a full pornographic site and you do not disclose to your partner that this is something that you do – that's infidelity. That's cheating, right?
If it's something that you disclose and you have a conversation about, then clearly it's not, right? So for some people, they will say that still it is. In my opinion, if you are not disclosing that to your partner, it is.
If it's something that you disclose and you have a conversation about, then clearly it's not, right? So for some people, they will say that still it is. In my opinion, if you are not disclosing that to your partner, it is.
I'm reading some stats here and it says that about 80% of men view porn on their own, and roughly 35% of women reported to watching pornography on their own.
I'm reading some stats here and it says that about 80% of men view porn on their own, and roughly 35% of women reported to watching pornography on their own.
So watching on your own without your partner having any awareness of that, for many people that would be, or I believe many people would consider that infidelity.
So watching on your own without your partner having any awareness of that, for many people that would be, or I believe many people would consider that infidelity.
With a quarter of men reporting that they conceal their pornography consumption from their partner, and nearly a third of women express concerns about their partner's pornography use. Yeah.
With a quarter of men reporting that they conceal their pornography consumption from their partner, and nearly a third of women express concerns about their partner's pornography use. Yeah.
You know, this is why I think it's so important. We have to normalize. It almost goes back to normalizing being attracted, right? to people. We have to normalize this. Because with attraction, there's emotional, there's physical, and there's sexual attraction. And we have to understand that this is a part of being human. This is what we've been given. And
You know, this is why I think it's so important. We have to normalize. It almost goes back to normalizing being attracted, right? to people. We have to normalize this. Because with attraction, there's emotional, there's physical, and there's sexual attraction. And we have to understand that this is a part of being human. This is what we've been given. And
The reason why, one reason why that we hide it is because society likes to shame us and say, oh, no, once you found your partner, you should never have eyes for anyone else. And part of that is what the script that's been handed to us. And we talked about religion having impact on this.
The reason why, one reason why that we hide it is because society likes to shame us and say, oh, no, once you found your partner, you should never have eyes for anyone else. And part of that is what the script that's been handed to us. And we talked about religion having impact on this.
And we have to normalize these conversations because when we do, we'll have higher satisfaction because we'll realize that You know, like you turn around and say, oh, my God, like my partner does this too. You know what I mean? So it's incredibly important for us to normalize this concept around having a level of attraction outside of our partner.
And we have to normalize these conversations because when we do, we'll have higher satisfaction because we'll realize that You know, like you turn around and say, oh, my God, like my partner does this too. You know what I mean? So it's incredibly important for us to normalize this concept around having a level of attraction outside of our partner.