Paul Brunson

So when we're dating, the serial daters especially, the hundred people, it's important for you to step outside of your sphere, if you will.

So when we're dating, the serial daters especially, the hundred people, it's important for you to step outside of your sphere, if you will.

I want to pick up on something there. You said that white woman went into a black space. And in that black space, she would be considered a premium because basically her characteristics make her rare. Yes. Right.

I want to pick up on something there. You said that white woman went into a black space. And in that black space, she would be considered a premium because basically her characteristics make her rare. Yes. Right.

I was just doing some research then, and it says that studies and surveys indicate that ethnic minorities, particularly Asian men and black women, often face unique challenges in dating in both the UK and the U.S., And these challenges stem from a combination of social stereotypes, cultural biases, and the preference expressed on dating platforms.

I was just doing some research then, and it says that studies and surveys indicate that ethnic minorities, particularly Asian men and black women, often face unique challenges in dating in both the UK and the U.S., And these challenges stem from a combination of social stereotypes, cultural biases, and the preference expressed on dating platforms.

And the reason I'm asking this question is to, it's not a lived experience I have because I'm not an Asian man, although sometimes people think I am. There are a group of people where I don't have a shared lived experience who are struggling in ways in the Western world that like maybe me and you don't understand.

And the reason I'm asking this question is to, it's not a lived experience I have because I'm not an Asian man, although sometimes people think I am. There are a group of people where I don't have a shared lived experience who are struggling in ways in the Western world that like maybe me and you don't understand.

Yeah. No, definitely. Definitely. You know, we have to understand that that we exist in a highly racist society. And a lot of people don't like to acknowledge it, don't like to talk about it, like to sweep it under the rug. But when it comes to dating, it shows up, like in this statistic that you're talking about. Now, let's think about this. If you are someone who is not black,

Yeah. No, definitely. Definitely. You know, we have to understand that that we exist in a highly racist society. And a lot of people don't like to acknowledge it, don't like to talk about it, like to sweep it under the rug. But when it comes to dating, it shows up, like in this statistic that you're talking about. Now, let's think about this. If you are someone who is not black,

and you are interested in a partner, and you've had no experiences with black people other than maybe watching some black people on television, and your parents in your community have said all kinds of crazy things about black people, and you have all types of negative belief structures around black people, and then...

and you are interested in a partner, and you've had no experiences with black people other than maybe watching some black people on television, and your parents in your community have said all kinds of crazy things about black people, and you have all types of negative belief structures around black people, and then...

and you're a man, you're say a white man, and you're presented with a black woman on a dating app, are you going to swipe on this person? No, you're not because you don't understand how incredible she is, how smart she is, how beautiful she is. Like you don't, you have no appreciation. So the reason why they're not swiping is their ignorance. That's what it is. And this is the reason why

and you're a man, you're say a white man, and you're presented with a black woman on a dating app, are you going to swipe on this person? No, you're not because you don't understand how incredible she is, how smart she is, how beautiful she is. Like you don't, you have no appreciation. So the reason why they're not swiping is their ignorance. That's what it is. And this is the reason why

One of the most important things we can do is widen our social groups. This is the most important thing. I mean, it positively impacts our romantic relationships. It positively impacts our life, is that we need to have a diverse set of people that we interact with and truly understand how beautiful how beautiful people who are different than us actually are.

One of the most important things we can do is widen our social groups. This is the most important thing. I mean, it positively impacts our romantic relationships. It positively impacts our life, is that we need to have a diverse set of people that we interact with and truly understand how beautiful how beautiful people who are different than us actually are.

Is there a bit of a systemic issue here as well? Because when I was thinking about your grandmother growing up in that village in Jamaica that you referenced, she would...

Is there a bit of a systemic issue here as well? Because when I was thinking about your grandmother growing up in that village in Jamaica that you referenced, she would...

spend a lot of time because of the nature of how she would meet that person in the village that other man in the village getting to know him beyond his surface level appearance yes so if he lived across the street she would interact with him see his behavior he might have long fingernails you know but she gets to learn that he's a kind generous person and he's got a good sense of humor so she can look past the velcro wallet and the long fingernails but in the way that we've designed

spend a lot of time because of the nature of how she would meet that person in the village that other man in the village getting to know him beyond his surface level appearance yes so if he lived across the street she would interact with him see his behavior he might have long fingernails you know but she gets to learn that he's a kind generous person and he's got a good sense of humor so she can look past the velcro wallet and the long fingernails but in the way that we've designed