Paul Brunson

dating in the modern world, where most people now, I believe, are meeting online in some form, whether it's social media or other, we're actually purely judging someone on the fingernails. We make a decision in a couple of seconds whether this person is compatible or not, and obviously that's not possible. And I just feel this real strong sense of... dissatisfaction, frustration, and...

dating in the modern world, where most people now, I believe, are meeting online in some form, whether it's social media or other, we're actually purely judging someone on the fingernails. We make a decision in a couple of seconds whether this person is compatible or not, and obviously that's not possible. And I just feel this real strong sense of... dissatisfaction, frustration, and...

desperation from people at the moment as it relates to finding someone. And I just think the systems that we've built, social networking, the screens, have only exacerbated this frustration and desperation. My question, which is somewhat linked to this, is really around the old ways of doing things. Like you were talking about your grandmother.

desperation from people at the moment as it relates to finding someone. And I just think the systems that we've built, social networking, the screens, have only exacerbated this frustration and desperation. My question, which is somewhat linked to this, is really around the old ways of doing things. Like you were talking about your grandmother.

And I was really curious about one subject in particular and wondered if you had any data on this, which is arranged marriages. Yes. Yes. Are arranged marriages... as successful as the relationships we form today via social media screens, et cetera, et cetera. Because back in the day, we were kind of put together with somebody based on, I don't know, family or economic reasons.

And I was really curious about one subject in particular and wondered if you had any data on this, which is arranged marriages. Yes. Yes. Are arranged marriages... as successful as the relationships we form today via social media screens, et cetera, et cetera. Because back in the day, we were kind of put together with somebody based on, I don't know, family or economic reasons.

Did those marriages succeed?

Did those marriages succeed?

Many of us don't want to acknowledge how successful arranged marriages actually have been and continue to be. Really? Continue to be. But we have to look at the why, right? Now, when people hear this, they immediately say, oh, well, what about all the abuse and the dissatisfaction that happens in these relationships? Does it happen? Absolutely.

Many of us don't want to acknowledge how successful arranged marriages actually have been and continue to be. Really? Continue to be. But we have to look at the why, right? Now, when people hear this, they immediately say, oh, well, what about all the abuse and the dissatisfaction that happens in these relationships? Does it happen? Absolutely.

But it also happens in non-arranged marriages at significantly high rates. So why are arranged marriages so successful? To some researchers, they have a higher level of satisfaction than non-arranged marriages. And here's the reason why. The reason why is because

But it also happens in non-arranged marriages at significantly high rates. So why are arranged marriages so successful? To some researchers, they have a higher level of satisfaction than non-arranged marriages. And here's the reason why. The reason why is because

you have families coming together and negotiating and determining whether or not this particular person fits within their family structure. And what does that mean? That means that you have literally a mother, a father, a grandmother, a grandfather, a brother, a sister, who come together and they discuss and debate the characteristics.

you have families coming together and negotiating and determining whether or not this particular person fits within their family structure. And what does that mean? That means that you have literally a mother, a father, a grandmother, a grandfather, a brother, a sister, who come together and they discuss and debate the characteristics.

They discuss and debate whether or not this person is an upstanding human being. Is this person open-minded? Is this person going to be resourceful? Are they resilient? They debate these characteristics. And the reason why it's so beneficial is because the person getting married is not involved and they're not involved because they would be entirely biased.

They discuss and debate whether or not this person is an upstanding human being. Is this person open-minded? Is this person going to be resourceful? Are they resilient? They debate these characteristics. And the reason why it's so beneficial is because the person getting married is not involved and they're not involved because they would be entirely biased.

What happens today is incredibly dangerous. What happens today is when we meet someone, we typically do not involve any friends and family. We are already infatuated with the person, so we're obsessed with them. Therefore, we can't even determine whether or not they have any of the traits that we want. We are living through our own trauma. And we're not even selecting them.

What happens today is incredibly dangerous. What happens today is when we meet someone, we typically do not involve any friends and family. We are already infatuated with the person, so we're obsessed with them. Therefore, we can't even determine whether or not they have any of the traits that we want. We are living through our own trauma. And we're not even selecting them.

Typically, they are selecting us. So we end up sliding, if you will, into a relationship that was never right for us to begin with. Whereas in arranged marriages, you have a true debate happening around whether or not someone will fit within the life of that individual. Another example is,

Typically, they are selecting us. So we end up sliding, if you will, into a relationship that was never right for us to begin with. Whereas in arranged marriages, you have a true debate happening around whether or not someone will fit within the life of that individual. Another example is,