Paul Brunson

My wife and I at our matchmaking agency, we pioneered something that had never been done, at least to our knowledge, in matchmaking. Like, Stephen, if you were a client of ours, you would be the perfect client at that time, right? Because we had many men who were incredibly successful professionally and felt as if, okay, what I'm missing is I'm missing people. love. I'm missing partnership.

My wife and I at our matchmaking agency, we pioneered something that had never been done, at least to our knowledge, in matchmaking. Like, Stephen, if you were a client of ours, you would be the perfect client at that time, right? Because we had many men who were incredibly successful professionally and felt as if, okay, what I'm missing is I'm missing people. love. I'm missing partnership.

So if you came to us as a client, instead of me saying, all right, Stephen, tell me what you want, right? And you give me this long list. I know you'd give me a list of like 150 things that you want, right? Instead, I would say, no, no, you go sit over there. I'm not even going to talk to you. Instead, let me talk to your brother. Let me talk to your coworkers. Let me talk to your exes.

So if you came to us as a client, instead of me saying, all right, Stephen, tell me what you want, right? And you give me this long list. I know you'd give me a list of like 150 things that you want, right? Instead, I would say, no, no, you go sit over there. I'm not even going to talk to you. Instead, let me talk to your brother. Let me talk to your coworkers. Let me talk to your exes.

Yes, let me talk to your exes. Let me get a 360 perspective of who you are from the people who you are closest to. And I would then build out a profile based on the consensus of what they're telling me.

Yes, let me talk to your exes. Let me get a 360 perspective of who you are from the people who you are closest to. And I would then build out a profile based on the consensus of what they're telling me.

This is so true. Yeah. I've got one of my best friends in the world has struggled with a few of my best friends, but there's two I'm thinking about in particular, but one I really want to focus on. He's struggled in relationships for the last, I'd say 15 years. And every single time he gets in a relationship as his friend, I go, that's not, that's not it. That's not it.

This is so true. Yeah. I've got one of my best friends in the world has struggled with a few of my best friends, but there's two I'm thinking about in particular, but one I really want to focus on. He's struggled in relationships for the last, I'd say 15 years. And every single time he gets in a relationship as his friend, I go, that's not, that's not it. That's not it.

And every single time he gets with somebody else, I go, that's not it either. Yeah. And I, after this last relationship failed, I sat with him. And I'm trying not to, like, you know, intervene too much. But I said, bro, I will know. I feel like the same way that he knew when I'd found the right one. And he would literally... If I was to dump my current partner, he would literally...

And every single time he gets with somebody else, I go, that's not it either. Yeah. And I, after this last relationship failed, I sat with him. And I'm trying not to, like, you know, intervene too much. But I said, bro, I will know. I feel like the same way that he knew when I'd found the right one. And he would literally... If I was to dump my current partner, he would literally...

reverse the decision yes he would write an executive order to reverse the decision because he knows that person is exactly what was right for me in the same way i could literally draw a picture i could tell you the occupation the age of the right person for him based on knowing him and him being my best friend for 10 15 years but for some reason he goes for everything opposite than that right and i've always wondered this i've always wondered like

reverse the decision yes he would write an executive order to reverse the decision because he knows that person is exactly what was right for me in the same way i could literally draw a picture i could tell you the occupation the age of the right person for him based on knowing him and him being my best friend for 10 15 years but for some reason he goes for everything opposite than that right and i've always wondered this i've always wondered like

Should we be picking our friends' partners for them? No.

Should we be picking our friends' partners for them? No.

If, as a society, we went back to our nearest and dearest family and social circle, and I want to emphasize the people who we truly love, because not all family is family. So if we had that circle making the decision for us, we would have much higher satisfaction rates in marriages. without question, or much higher satisfaction rates in partnerships. It's because of precisely what you said.

If, as a society, we went back to our nearest and dearest family and social circle, and I want to emphasize the people who we truly love, because not all family is family. So if we had that circle making the decision for us, we would have much higher satisfaction rates in marriages. without question, or much higher satisfaction rates in partnerships. It's because of precisely what you said.

Reading a study here, it says a 2012 study published in the Journal of Comparative Family Studies found that couples in arranged marriages in collectivist cultures reported similar or higher levels of satisfaction over the long term compared to those in love marriages. Yes.

Reading a study here, it says a 2012 study published in the Journal of Comparative Family Studies found that couples in arranged marriages in collectivist cultures reported similar or higher levels of satisfaction over the long term compared to those in love marriages. Yes.

Yes. Go back. Eli Finkel, 80% of our marriages have a lower level of satisfaction today than any point in history. And you think about the emphasis that we place on the individual. This is something that needs to really be emphasized because the more that we require our partner to deliver everything to us, the higher their bar becomes, the expectation.

Yes. Go back. Eli Finkel, 80% of our marriages have a lower level of satisfaction today than any point in history. And you think about the emphasis that we place on the individual. This is something that needs to really be emphasized because the more that we require our partner to deliver everything to us, the higher their bar becomes, the expectation.