Paul C. Brunson

If I feel there's distance between my partner and I, we've lost the plot.

Yes.

That happens, right?

That happens.

Like, I love to read at night.

It's how I wind down.

I don't like to be on a screen, so I like to read a little bit.

And because I'm doing it at night, I'll be a few pages in.

All of a sudden, I'll kind of realize I'm tired, and I don't really know what I'm reading anymore.

And then I'll try to stop and go, well, where did I lose it?

And I'll go back, and it's usually a couple pages.

And then I'll recognize the last thing I remember, and I'll go, okay, that's where I'm going to put the bookmark, and now I'm going to close my eyes.

You lose the plot.

It happens.

What you're describing is a situation where my partner maybe doesn't recognize that we've lost the plot or isn't committed to let's do some work to reverse this spiral that we're down.

And the way to do that, I think, is little tiny things, like little gestures.

I don't think it has to be grand gestures.

I actually think if you think about love,

and when you feel loved by your partner.

It's very rarely like these grand gestures.