Pete Wright

No, I don't – I mean this – I think it underscores why it's such a complicated – Yeah. Like topic. Right. Because I think you're absolutely right. There is healthy sexual desire and attraction, which is good. Like we like that we support sexual attraction. And then there's what obsession, unhealthy obsession with the thing.

No, I don't – I mean this – I think it underscores why it's such a complicated – Yeah. Like topic. Right. Because I think you're absolutely right. There is healthy sexual desire and attraction, which is good. Like we like that we support sexual attraction. And then there's what obsession, unhealthy obsession with the thing.

And that could be like you mentioned it, a lust for money, a lust for food, a lust for when lust becomes shorthand for a loss of control in our desire for a thing. That, I think, makes sense. That becomes like the maladaptive behavior. Right.

And that could be like you mentioned it, a lust for money, a lust for food, a lust for when lust becomes shorthand for a loss of control in our desire for a thing. That, I think, makes sense. That becomes like the maladaptive behavior. Right.

Yeah, now we've gone to full ASMR. Gross.

Yeah, now we've gone to full ASMR. Gross.

That was the worst. So, yeah, so I don't even remember what that slur got us to.

That was the worst. So, yeah, so I don't even remember what that slur got us to.

Yeah, lack of control, loss of control.

Yeah, lack of control, loss of control.

Maybe not. Like, okay, so I look at my own relationship, right? I think lust is an important part of a healthy sexual relationship. And I think the idea of lusting after my long-term partner is awesome. And I want to be lusted after the same way. I want to be objectified that way too. That makes it fun, right? Yeah. That's fun.

Maybe not. Like, okay, so I look at my own relationship, right? I think lust is an important part of a healthy sexual relationship. And I think the idea of lusting after my long-term partner is awesome. And I want to be lusted after the same way. I want to be objectified that way too. That makes it fun, right? Yeah. That's fun.

It is super consensual and kind of like using the word lust is kind of naughty and feels like invigorating and tantalizing. And that that feels OK to me. But again, the complicated part is like, you know, meeting somebody for the first time and saying, hey, totally lusting after you right now.

It is super consensual and kind of like using the word lust is kind of naughty and feels like invigorating and tantalizing. And that that feels OK to me. But again, the complicated part is like, you know, meeting somebody for the first time and saying, hey, totally lusting after you right now.

Yeah. Then it's like super seductive, but destructive at the same time.

Yeah. Then it's like super seductive, but destructive at the same time.

Yeah. Right.

Yeah. Right.

Yeah, that's interesting. Well, because what you're doing is you're personalizing it, right? You're talking about your state and your behavior and not the act of chase or pursuit of someone else, which then suddenly seems creepy and uninvited. I think so.

Yeah, that's interesting. Well, because what you're doing is you're personalizing it, right? You're talking about your state and your behavior and not the act of chase or pursuit of someone else, which then suddenly seems creepy and uninvited. I think so.