Peter Bregman

One is just depressing and the other is sort of exciting. Okay, so now that's step two. So we've got this energizing outcome. So step three is what is the opportunity that's hidden in the problem? Because we still have a problem. It's great that you want to be an athlete, but you still have this problem of eating too much sugar. So then the question is, what's the opportunity there?

One is just depressing and the other is sort of exciting. Okay, so now that's step two. So we've got this energizing outcome. So step three is what is the opportunity that's hidden in the problem? Because we still have a problem. It's great that you want to be an athlete, but you still have this problem of eating too much sugar. So then the question is, what's the opportunity there?

One is just depressing and the other is sort of exciting. Okay, so now that's step two. So we've got this energizing outcome. So step three is what is the opportunity that's hidden in the problem? Because we still have a problem. It's great that you want to be an athlete, but you still have this problem of eating too much sugar. So then the question is, what's the opportunity there?

And after asking certain questions, we get to the point that

And after asking certain questions, we get to the point that

And after asking certain questions, we get to the point that

actually the reason i'm eating that sugar is because i'm exhausted and it's you know in this particular case it was four in the morning and i was exhausted but in general i work myself too hard i push myself so hard and sugar gives me this burst of energy well all right that's interesting so the opportunity that you find hidden in the problem of eating too much sugar is rest

actually the reason i'm eating that sugar is because i'm exhausted and it's you know in this particular case it was four in the morning and i was exhausted but in general i work myself too hard i push myself so hard and sugar gives me this burst of energy well all right that's interesting so the opportunity that you find hidden in the problem of eating too much sugar is rest

actually the reason i'm eating that sugar is because i'm exhausted and it's you know in this particular case it was four in the morning and i was exhausted but in general i work myself too hard i push myself so hard and sugar gives me this burst of energy well all right that's interesting so the opportunity that you find hidden in the problem of eating too much sugar is rest

is like, I need to rest. And by the way, an athlete, like probably the most important thing that you can do for yourself as an athlete is to rest. So now we've got this outcome of an athlete and we've got the opportunity, which is I need to find more rest when I am yearning for sugar.

is like, I need to rest. And by the way, an athlete, like probably the most important thing that you can do for yourself as an athlete is to rest. So now we've got this outcome of an athlete and we've got the opportunity, which is I need to find more rest when I am yearning for sugar.

is like, I need to rest. And by the way, an athlete, like probably the most important thing that you can do for yourself as an athlete is to rest. So now we've got this outcome of an athlete and we've got the opportunity, which is I need to find more rest when I am yearning for sugar.

That is a sign that I'm overtired and that I need to rest and I need to build rest into my life and I need to build rest into my schedule.

That is a sign that I'm overtired and that I need to rest and I need to build rest into my life and I need to build rest into my schedule.

That is a sign that I'm overtired and that I need to rest and I need to build rest into my life and I need to build rest into my schedule.

and then that once we figure that out now we're up to the fourth step which is to plan specifically what am i going to do by when how am i going to do it and that plan is an experiment so it doesn't have to be perfect it doesn't have to be right we don't necessarily need to know that you will solve this 100 this week but we want to know that you can choose some action that you can do that will reflect movement towards the solution towards the outcome that you want to achieve

and then that once we figure that out now we're up to the fourth step which is to plan specifically what am i going to do by when how am i going to do it and that plan is an experiment so it doesn't have to be perfect it doesn't have to be right we don't necessarily need to know that you will solve this 100 this week but we want to know that you can choose some action that you can do that will reflect movement towards the solution towards the outcome that you want to achieve

and then that once we figure that out now we're up to the fourth step which is to plan specifically what am i going to do by when how am i going to do it and that plan is an experiment so it doesn't have to be perfect it doesn't have to be right we don't necessarily need to know that you will solve this 100 this week but we want to know that you can choose some action that you can do that will reflect movement towards the solution towards the outcome that you want to achieve

So here's the thing. There is no point in this process where I am telling her what to do or giving her advice. I'm engaging with her in thinking about it and asking certain questions that always keep her in control. It's her change. It's her choice.

So here's the thing. There is no point in this process where I am telling her what to do or giving her advice. I'm engaging with her in thinking about it and asking certain questions that always keep her in control. It's her change. It's her choice.