Philippa Perry

If it's specific feedback about where you can improve and it's not a damning of your character or of the whole of you, then it's probably quite useful.

I think what I come away with is the more of ability to stay grounded in myself rather than being a bit too much in my thoughts.

So I think I get a little bit more in my body and be able to relate and respond from that place.

I'm a bit of an intellectual, so I can all too easily go up into my head and then miss the other person.

Because really, we are bodies.

You know, that's what we basically are.

And although we're talking to each other with words, you know, we're also breathing together, sitting opposite each other.

We're in each other's space.

We're breathing each other's air together.

So I think that body to body communication is really important.

And if you're too much in your head, you can't receive the other person on a sort of bodily level.

You know, when you walk into a room and there's an atmosphere, you go, hello, what's going on there?

That's when it's an extreme body to body reaction.

You're responding to the tension in other people's bodies.

A word doesn't have to be spoken and you can sort of feel it.

You go, hello, what's going on?

And I think that reaction can be fine-tuned all the way down to, you know, how do we feel together?

And I think I come away with much better skills in that department, which I can forget the rest of the time.

curled up and in and you're actually and actually if you can fake it till you make it i guess really and inhabit a body that feels relaxed yeah outward it does help cognitively change things i mean a real easy way to do that is thinking how am i breathing right now yeah and as soon as you do that you usually slow down and get into the breath yeah

I think one of them is I'm not good enough.