Prof. Chris French
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So the first thing is something he calls an empathy prompt. And this is basically in your conversation with this person about why you're unhappy with their behavior. You sort of set it up by priming the other person to feel empathy for you while you're giving them feedback in this really particular way that could get through to someone with narcissism. So he gave me an example.
So the first thing is something he calls an empathy prompt. And this is basically in your conversation with this person about why you're unhappy with their behavior. You sort of set it up by priming the other person to feel empathy for you while you're giving them feedback in this really particular way that could get through to someone with narcissism. So he gave me an example.
Say your partner is someone who can often act very dismissive of your ideas.
Say your partner is someone who can often act very dismissive of your ideas.
Yeah. That's like a gunpowder-packed statement because it's so much about how much you value them.
Yeah. That's like a gunpowder-packed statement because it's so much about how much you value them.
In addition to this is what I'm not getting from you.
In addition to this is what I'm not getting from you.
Maybe. Wendy, because? You love being the center of attention and people always love your story. Okay, okay. What other tips did Craig have? Craig kind of had different strategies for like how stubbornly narcissistic people are. So for someone that's like maybe not going to melt from the empathy prompt, what he suggests is this thing called catching good. So here's what he means by that.
Maybe. Wendy, because? You love being the center of attention and people always love your story. Okay, okay. What other tips did Craig have? Craig kind of had different strategies for like how stubbornly narcissistic people are. So for someone that's like maybe not going to melt from the empathy prompt, what he suggests is this thing called catching good. So here's what he means by that.
He's like, say you think you have a narcissistic boss, but one day they do like one nice thing. Maybe they take you out for lunch. They listen to an idea that you had. You can tell them.
He's like, say you think you have a narcissistic boss, but one day they do like one nice thing. Maybe they take you out for lunch. They listen to an idea that you had. You can tell them.
Yes. He ties it to like, here's the outcome that will benefit you. Yes. So if that doesn't work and the empathy prompts don't work and you can't, you know, this person's still in your life. There is one last strategy that I think we're talking about. And especially because this is something that the Internet loves talking about. And this is called gray rocking.
Yes. He ties it to like, here's the outcome that will benefit you. Yes. So if that doesn't work and the empathy prompts don't work and you can't, you know, this person's still in your life. There is one last strategy that I think we're talking about. And especially because this is something that the Internet loves talking about. And this is called gray rocking.