Quinlan Walther
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
You haven't texted back in days.
Or canceled plans again.
Part of you just says...
I don't know.
No, thanks.
Not interested.
Been here 17 times.
I'm not interested in an 18th round.
Like, no, thank you.
I value communication, transparency.
I don't need you available to me all the time, but you absolutely need to let me know rather than canceling last minute or like your standards are just clearer.
When you know what you value in a relationship, it becomes a hell of a lot easier to say, does this feel the way that I want love to feel?
And if not, I'm good.
I don't need to understand why.
I don't need to know why you're avoidant.
You know, what was it your mom and your dad?
The late night journaling session.
Yes.
It just doesn't help at the end of the day if the relationship isn't, for the most part, feeling the way that you want it to feel.
That's the important distinction.