Quinlan Walther

to see if there's any change in that predisposition.

Like how many generations would it take?

Yes, exactly.

And obviously, genetics slowed the gun, environment pulls the trigger, but...

At the core of all of that, the first question that we have is, am I safe?

Am I safe?

Do I belong?

Is anyone paying attention to me?

Because if they are and I'm safe, then I can look at all these other things, how I relate to other people and how do I get to have creative freedom to be my own individual person?

What do I want to do?

Those questions come second to, am I safe?

And the question that comes right after that is, and do I belong?

Do people love me enough to pay attention?

If we don't get those needs satisfied, if we don't... And sometimes it happens later than it should.

A lot of the times it happens later than it should.

It's really difficult to try and...

figure out how to have a super healthy secure relationship on top of that how to chase your dreams and be super ambitious and still have a good balance and feel good about yourself and that's really difficult if your fundamental needs of do I belong enough me at my core do I belong enough for people to care and want me around like am I am I

physically and psychologically, emotionally safe.

That's going to follow you around like a ghost if you don't figure out

If you don't figure out the answer to that question, do you feel safe, yes or no?