Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz

So you want to make sure that you have the proper filters on your phone and that you have the proper context where you have

as little temptation as possible and that you'll be much more successful.

Rabbi Reisman mentioned to me that he didn't even realize that you can get internet on flip phones.

So he said in his house they only have flip phones and one of the Talmidim told him or someone that was in his house at some point told him you should know that I swiped your wife's phone at some point he was staying over for some period of time and he said I swiped your wife's phone when she put it down and I saw things I shouldn't see because I knew how to get on the internet from it.

So you should probably, you know, so just like anything, you know, so you want to make sure that you're well filtered and all that.

However, however, I think there's a hush of a point that Rabbi Reisman likes to make, which in quotes from Rav Palm, that we should not obsess about Shemir Hossein Naim.

The more we focus on it and obsess, the more it becomes a part of us and it's probably not super duper healthy.

Rabbi Reisman said he once prepared for his Mosei Shabbos Navi Shirin.

He was going to talk about Shemir Sein Ayim.

Rav Palm said to him on a Friday, what do you plan on talking about tomorrow night?

And he said, Shemir Sein Ayim.

Rav Palm said, nope, you don't talk about that in public.

Because it just gets people too obsessed on the topic.

And Rabbi Reisman quoted a Chinese proverb, I think it was, of two monks that are walking down the street and there's a giant puddle and a woman needed to get from one side of the puddle to the other.

So one of the monks lifted her up and carried her to the other side of the puddle and he placed her down and continued on his way.

And as the two monks are walking, the other monk said to him,

Don't you know that we're not supposed to touch women?

How can you carry that woman?

And this was like an hour later when they finally spoke up.

So the first monk said, Oh, I see.