Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz

In Hashkafah, we assume that it's not that you're happy when good things happen, but good things happen when you are happy.

meaning when you create a positive energy around you, and social sciences certainly verify this, we know this to be true, that when you create a positive energy around you, good things happen to you.

I think the Maharal writes on the Misha Nechlasa Adar Marvim Besimcha,

What is it?

Is it that when there's the mazel of simcha in the world of Adar, so then you can be more b'simcha?

Or is it that because you have a chiv to be b'simcha, it creates a real mazel?

And the answer is probably a little bit of both.

But certainly, happiness is something that can be generated by a person.

I think all the research says that happiness is not a result of what happens to you, but

but a result of your attitude toward things.

And there are certain tricks to be able to generate this sense of happiness.

Most important trick is to find the right partner in life, to be a positive person and to have a happy home environment.

where if you're a man and you want to find the right woman, you want it to be a woman who is going to have a smile on her face and is going to be someone who is a more cheerful person.

And a lot of times you control that because if you walk into your house with a frown on your face and I'm just so exhausted, so then you'll get back exactly what you're giving.

But if you walk in with a giant smile on your face,

and with positivity and with happiness, you'll get that back as well more often than not.

So that's a very important way to create happiness.

I think they say that if you give compliments to people, it means that you're looking for good things.

And when you look for good things, you will find good things.

Right.