Rabbi

I've written on this topic in terms of how closely men and women should be interacting with each other.

There is, in our world, a little bit too much of a sense of comfort that people have with other people's wives.

People assume once you get married, the issue to talk to girls goes away.

All of a sudden, you could be buddy-buddies.

That's really not the way the Shulchan Aruch said.

Shulchan Aruch says that you're not supposed to have strong social relationships with women who are not your wife.

So I think on that level, it's something that probably should be avoided anyhow.

But that's just my own ad-lib.

That's not really the halacha.

The strict halacha is what I told you.

Moshe shiit ha-zasar, others say mo.

one more Sephardi Ashkenazi topic and that is again still the afterglow of Nathan Payman's wedding for those who went there is no Yichud at a Sephardi wedding or traditionally there hasn't been Yichud at a Sephardi wedding I discussed I discovered this with my first Sephardi Talmud to get married I remember it was a Sephardi Masada Kedushin and the Masada Kedushin took all seven brachos under the chuppah which is also

typically the Sephardic tradition, and it's really the Ashkenazic tradition also, but somehow, at some point that changed, maybe that's the topic for a different time, but he asked me to be one of the 8-day kiddush, and I was an 8 kiddush, and then after the chuppah, they danced the chassan and called it to the yichud room, and they got right to the door of the yichud room, and Marina Del Rey, I remember, and the chassan said, we're Sephardic, we don't have yichud anyway, and they just continued dancing for a while, because they don't do yichud, so that issue of why it is that Sephardim don't do yichud at the wedding, is a perplexing issue, and it's something that

I think is a fascinating discussion.

The Rambam holds, as we've discussed a few times already this summer, the Rambam holds that chuppah is defined as yichud.

Nisuin is defined as yichud.

And one would therefore think that Sephardim would be especially careful to have yichud after the chuppah because that is the definition of nisuin.

That's how they get married.

However, the common Sephardic practice, like we said, is not to have yichud.

So let's discuss why it should be.