Rachel Bernstein

And there are a lot of people who would much rather just go back into the dark and do the la, la, la, la, la, Mary had a little, because that's just where they need to live their life because they think that's the only way for them to survive. And it could be that they just don't have the emotional ability to have the courage or the strength. to really look.

And there are a lot of people who would much rather just go back into the dark and do the la, la, la, la, la, Mary had a little, because that's just where they need to live their life because they think that's the only way for them to survive. And it could be that they just don't have the emotional ability to have the courage or the strength. to really look.

What's also true, and this is actually why a lot of cults and even narcissistic partners will often have the person they're controlling speak on behalf of them and speak on behalf of the cult or do recruiting and kind of share the party line about how wonderful it is and how wonderful this person is.

What's also true, and this is actually why a lot of cults and even narcissistic partners will often have the person they're controlling speak on behalf of them and speak on behalf of the cult or do recruiting and kind of share the party line about how wonderful it is and how wonderful this person is.

What's also true, and this is actually why a lot of cults and even narcissistic partners will often have the person they're controlling speak on behalf of them and speak on behalf of the cult or do recruiting and kind of share the party line about how wonderful it is and how wonderful this person is.

Because once you say something out loud, there is the part of our social psychology and human psychology that makes us feel like we have to back that up. And we have to stick with the messaging because then who are we? Did we just lie about all of that? We have to save face. So that adds another layer, I think, of the worry of social shame.

Because once you say something out loud, there is the part of our social psychology and human psychology that makes us feel like we have to back that up. And we have to stick with the messaging because then who are we? Did we just lie about all of that? We have to save face. So that adds another layer, I think, of the worry of social shame.

Because once you say something out loud, there is the part of our social psychology and human psychology that makes us feel like we have to back that up. And we have to stick with the messaging because then who are we? Did we just lie about all of that? We have to save face. So that adds another layer, I think, of the worry of social shame.

And so what are the concerns that are keeping you not seeing and not wanting to see what you probably have already seen, even in little bits? And so to get into that discussion, I think, is where you can actually make the most inroads, helping people talk about their fears. And also that they have to start their life all over again. Maybe they're worried about being single again.

And so what are the concerns that are keeping you not seeing and not wanting to see what you probably have already seen, even in little bits? And so to get into that discussion, I think, is where you can actually make the most inroads, helping people talk about their fears. And also that they have to start their life all over again. Maybe they're worried about being single again.

And so what are the concerns that are keeping you not seeing and not wanting to see what you probably have already seen, even in little bits? And so to get into that discussion, I think, is where you can actually make the most inroads, helping people talk about their fears. And also that they have to start their life all over again. Maybe they're worried about being single again.

Maybe they're worried about losing their whole community. Maybe they're worried about losing their own parents because if the in-laws are in support, then fine. You know, will they lose their own parents? So what is what's the cost here for them? And what's the worry about that?

Maybe they're worried about losing their whole community. Maybe they're worried about losing their own parents because if the in-laws are in support, then fine. You know, will they lose their own parents? So what is what's the cost here for them? And what's the worry about that?

Maybe they're worried about losing their whole community. Maybe they're worried about losing their own parents because if the in-laws are in support, then fine. You know, will they lose their own parents? So what is what's the cost here for them? And what's the worry about that?

And then I think once people get the courage to leave when they feel their feelings are understood, when they feel supported in their abject panic over doing it or really looking. then they can make those decisions in, I think, a bit of an easier way to leave. But they need to know they're not leaving into an abyss, leaving everything and everyone behind, but they'll be supported.

And then I think once people get the courage to leave when they feel their feelings are understood, when they feel supported in their abject panic over doing it or really looking. then they can make those decisions in, I think, a bit of an easier way to leave. But they need to know they're not leaving into an abyss, leaving everything and everyone behind, but they'll be supported.

And then I think once people get the courage to leave when they feel their feelings are understood, when they feel supported in their abject panic over doing it or really looking. then they can make those decisions in, I think, a bit of an easier way to leave. But they need to know they're not leaving into an abyss, leaving everything and everyone behind, but they'll be supported.

They'll have community. That actually... It helps quite a bit. But yeah, it takes a lot of courage to do what you're doing, even though it might not feel that way for you because it feels more natural for you. It would probably feel wrong of you to not do it.

They'll have community. That actually... It helps quite a bit. But yeah, it takes a lot of courage to do what you're doing, even though it might not feel that way for you because it feels more natural for you. It would probably feel wrong of you to not do it.

They'll have community. That actually... It helps quite a bit. But yeah, it takes a lot of courage to do what you're doing, even though it might not feel that way for you because it feels more natural for you. It would probably feel wrong of you to not do it.