Rachel Eliza Griffiths

I don't know if it's innate or learned.

But when there is a lot of pressure and things are kind of going to hell, I will focus and bear down.

I never questioned the love.

I think what has been more debilitating are the physical consequences of the violence that was done to him and in a way to me as well.

I think it's hard to watch the love of your life struggle

with blindness, with impaired mobility, to feel exhausted.

But I'm also trying to really look at what is there.

The knife didn't take away the mind inside of my husband.

It has not taken away his curiosity.

It has not taken away

How romantic he is and how he loves to plan date nights for us and watching movies and traveling and trying to spend as much quality time together as we can.

I think this experience makes you think about time.

And I think because I am married to someone who is much older than me, there is a sense of time, time passing, being present and really filling the time up with love.

And there are moments when we are very human with each other, like any other marriage.

But we really laugh a lot and we really try to support each other.

I think there's something that happens.

And, you know, you were talking about caretaker and caregiving.

You know, caregivers and caretakers can have as much trauma as the person, as the loved one that they are caring for.

It's just a different iteration.

But there's a kind of indescribable bridge and bond we have.