Rachel Wilkerson Miller

It makes me feel more empathetic.

So I think that is one of the great things about art is that it's this like tangible proof that somebody felt this way before.

And curiosity is like what draws you to it in this moment.

And one of the researchers I spoke to for the book who researches curiosity made the point that we often think of it as Wikipedia rabbit holes, but curiosity can also just be curiosity.

asking another person about their life or their experiences.

And so you don't necessarily have to do it in that way if that's not how you want to or whatever the case may be.

Like, you can satisfy your curiosity by just talking to somebody.

And I think that's a really good reminder that there are interesting people and experiences all around us all the time.

And, like, you could...

think about aging by reading this book, but you could also, you know, talk to a family member or a neighbor or a coworker.

Like there's so many ways to do curiosity.

And I think just remembering other people are a great way to do it as well was one of the lessons I took away from this.

I think it starts with just deepening the relationships that you do have.

Like sometimes people feel like, oh, we have a connection.

I think this could be something more, but they feel a little too shy to take that step further.

And I think that's the part where I'm like, just give yourself permission to do that.

You have to sometimes be willing to invite people

other people and it won't always work out not everyone will be your person but I think the more that you practice that the less scary it feels and the easier it is and you can just get better at striking up a conversation and realizing that the person on the other side will probably be very excited about it and very rarely will they be rude or mean and if they are it will be fine.

I would say that I would describe my interests as very women coded and they always have been.

And I've never really like apologized for that because to me, these are inherently good things and everyone should pursue them.