Randy Paterson

When you're noticing that there's something pulling you away from being assertive, you identify what exactly is it that I'm afraid is going to happen. And sometimes when you do that, you realize, oh gosh, that's never going to happen. All this today on Something You Should Know.

When you're noticing that there's something pulling you away from being assertive, you identify what exactly is it that I'm afraid is going to happen. And sometimes when you do that, you realize, oh gosh, that's never going to happen. All this today on Something You Should Know.

When you're noticing that there's something pulling you away from being assertive, you identify what exactly is it that I'm afraid is going to happen. And sometimes when you do that, you realize, oh gosh, that's never going to happen. All this today on Something You Should Know.

Oh, glad to be here, Mike.

Oh, glad to be here, Mike.

Oh, glad to be here, Mike.

Assertiveness is essentially the act of controlling your own behavior in the dance between you and another person in such a way that you're controlling yourself. You're not controlling the other person. That's more of an aggressive stance. They're not controlling you. That's more of a passive stance. But you are able to state what it is that you need.

Assertiveness is essentially the act of controlling your own behavior in the dance between you and another person in such a way that you're controlling yourself. You're not controlling the other person. That's more of an aggressive stance. They're not controlling you. That's more of a passive stance. But you are able to state what it is that you need.

Assertiveness is essentially the act of controlling your own behavior in the dance between you and another person in such a way that you're controlling yourself. You're not controlling the other person. That's more of an aggressive stance. They're not controlling you. That's more of a passive stance. But you are able to state what it is that you need.

You're able to set boundaries and you're able to defend them.

You're able to set boundaries and you're able to defend them.

You're able to set boundaries and you're able to defend them.

Well, there's so many different reasons. One would be stress. The stress response is also known as the fight or flight response. Fight leads us into aggression. Flight leads us into a more passive way of responding, sort of an avoidant stance, the passive stance. And so the more anxious we are in these situations, the less able we are to be properly assertive. A second is other people.

Well, there's so many different reasons. One would be stress. The stress response is also known as the fight or flight response. Fight leads us into aggression. Flight leads us into a more passive way of responding, sort of an avoidant stance, the passive stance. And so the more anxious we are in these situations, the less able we are to be properly assertive. A second is other people.

Well, there's so many different reasons. One would be stress. The stress response is also known as the fight or flight response. Fight leads us into aggression. Flight leads us into a more passive way of responding, sort of an avoidant stance, the passive stance. And so the more anxious we are in these situations, the less able we are to be properly assertive. A second is other people.

We've often been setting up other people to expect that we have no boundaries for our entire lives. And then when we set them, they think, oh my gosh, what's going on here? And they try to get us to change back. And a third major area is all of our beliefs about assertiveness.

We've often been setting up other people to expect that we have no boundaries for our entire lives. And then when we set them, they think, oh my gosh, what's going on here? And they try to get us to change back. And a third major area is all of our beliefs about assertiveness.

We've often been setting up other people to expect that we have no boundaries for our entire lives. And then when we set them, they think, oh my gosh, what's going on here? And they try to get us to change back. And a third major area is all of our beliefs about assertiveness.

We think that it's impolite to be assertive or that it's aggressive to be assertive or that all assertiveness is is watered down aggression. A variety of different beliefs can keep us away from simply stating what we think, what we want, what we're willing to do, and what we're not.

We think that it's impolite to be assertive or that it's aggressive to be assertive or that all assertiveness is is watered down aggression. A variety of different beliefs can keep us away from simply stating what we think, what we want, what we're willing to do, and what we're not.