Ray Addam
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Yeah.
Also, some of these subjects, for example, believing in God or religion, these are quite emotional subjects for many people.
And you might be feeling emotional on the inside.
But where most people go wrong is they let the outside of their body represent their inside feelings, which you cannot do.
Because you need to separate how you're feeling and how you're acting.
So when I talk to some students who say they want to be more confident, well, first, you need to learn how to act confidently.
Like if you sit at a coffee shop at the window and you watch the people walk past,
you can look at people and say, he's confident, he's feeling sad today, he's angry, he's got a lot on his mind.
Because a lot of people, the way that they're feeling inside their body, it dictates what they do with their body.
And although you cannot control your feelings, you can control what you do with your body.
So we need to learn what calmness and confidence looks like on the outside, with the chin up and the chest out and the shoulders back and the breathing being slow and controlled.
And regardless of how you're feeling, you need to come... Because you'll notice when you get emotional, you start acting in some way, but you need to become aware of that.
And then...
come back to this position of acting confidently, regardless of how you're feeling, the more that your feelings are dictating the way that you're acting, the more that you're being controlled by them instead of them controlling you.
And this is so important, not only for debating, but for example, if you're going to a job interview or if I'm appearing on your podcast,
There's definitely anxiety prior to coming on or going on the interview or public speaking or giving the presentation.
But you start to lose when those feelings dictate how you act instead of remembering what confidence actions look like and behaving calmly, regardless of how you're feeling on the inside.
With the debating, you definitely want to maintain that calm demeanor.
Well, as I mentioned earlier, that these techniques, they're kind of like the jab, cross, hook and uppercut of debating.
And you can use jab, cross, hook and uppercut to defend yourself.
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