Rebecca Zamolo

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The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby · Why I chose surrogacy w/ Rebecca Zamolo · 7 May 2025 podcast

And I think when you're sick for that long or you've experienced near death, I mean, for me, it was a life or death surgery. You see things differently. And I really look at just doing as much as I can because I have the opportunity to live. And I don't think I would have had that. I wouldn't have that perspective if I hadn't gone through what I went through.

i'm not let's go yeah that is really cool yeah so it makes everything when you're like oh i have to film another video podcast naps let's go yeah yeah so it's like filming 20 videos a month is like that's that's fun for me you know i don't mind doing it question for you guys because this is kind of important for us to know yeah difference between baby one and baby two

There's different things that I wasn't made aware of that can up your chances. There's a thing called spinning. So our problem was we wanted girl eggs and we had a lot of boy eggs. So we did multiple rounds to try to get good quality girl eggs. They're also all rated. So there's like a day one or a day five. Like a day five is a good egg, a strong.

Like think of a weak egg, okay, and then a good or great egg. Interesting. So we were having troubles with that. And so I had put all girl eggs in, I'd put, four eggs, female eggs, and they'd been unsuccessful. I only had one left.

This is the first with Zadie. Yes, the first try we did two. Before Zadie, with the miscarriages I had, I just was unsuccessful.

week 10 or week nine it was it was really hard like that because we thought there was multiple but also when you have two you lose one so when you lose one there's a lot of like that's also hard because you know you lost it you know it didn't make it and and so there's like double if you put two in um so for the the one with zadie we put in she was our last week female egg and

and so we put in a boy as well because I knew I wanted to get pregnant and I just wanted to be pregnant at this point but I knew I would not be able to have a girl if this didn't work and he was strong and she was weak so it was just like, you know what? At this point, I'm like putting this in God's hands because, you know. And so I lost one. And so it's like you see that you lost it.

And so everyone thought that we lost the girl. So I had to, in my head, just know that I probably wasn't going to have a girl. We were like, you know, we can look into adoption. There's other ways to have a girl. But I really didn't want to be upset because I wasn't upset about having a boy. I was upset that I wouldn't be able to have a girl.

So it was like, this dream of having a daughter will never happen in the way that I pictured it. Yes. So when we had our gender reveal, it was actually a true gender reveal because they can't tell once the eggs are in if it's the boy or the girl. So everyone had thought it was the boy and it turned out to be the girl. No way. So it was incredible. So- Yes, you can.

We knew going into this, we only had boy eggs, so it had to be a boy. But in that situation, that circumstance, we did not know. And we actually thought it would be a boy. And I worked on my face like, we're going to be happy, grateful to have a boy and be pregnant. Like,

I had to like really come to terms with that because I didn't want my face to know, like to show that I was anything but grateful. It was just also like I had always wanted a little girl as well. And so when we found out it was a girl, it was like, you know, the odds were against her and she came through. She said, I'm not a weak egg. I know. She was your fifth. Oh my gosh. Yeah.

Our fifth female egg.

So because of how hard it was for me to get pregnant the first time, we knew that it would be easier to have a surrogate. But what a lot of people didn't know, and I've talked about this a little bit, is because I have no colon, it's harder for me to absorb nutrients. and everything goes through me four times, like half is, takes half the time.

So she was almost premature because I almost lost her because I couldn't give her the nutrients. So I had to go on IV fluids two hours a night

for the last month or two of my pregnancy just to make sure she could be full term and so with that we knew that would already be the case with this one but now i have a daughter and i'm already spending a lot of time filming and two hours now with nap like with nighttime routines and everything would be a lot to take away from her and i felt like if i I would lose being a mom to her.

On top of that, you know, I am high risk with everything going on. So we just decided because I wanted to also be a mom to her and prioritize her. Whereas before I could just prioritize her in my stomach, it would be the best option to have a surrogate. Yeah, so...

Yes.

Honestly, I would have loved that. My sister had just passed the age of like – being like acceptable acceptable because there's like a screening process really okay so we we kind of just moved on from that but yeah it's a very different experience it's hard because um when you're pregnant you feel everything so you feel you feel that connection and with a surrogate you're you're trusting someone

with your child and, and you don't know what they're doing and you can only control to a certain point. And so I was talking to Abby earlier, how out of control you feel and, you know, when you like to be in control and you have no control, it's very hard and stressful. And, um, you know, we love our surrogate.

And, um, but it, it is still hard, you know, sometimes I forget we're having baby number two, you know, like I, everyone's like, how is it going? And it's like, if, if they miss an appointment, it stresses me out, you know, like I have no control. And then August is going to come and I'm going to have this little newborn baby. And it just feels like, Like it's so cool.

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