Remi Bader
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first heard Mar 2025
last heard 1 Dec
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Absolutely not. Right. If it was true, I would say it was true. Who cares if some people like get the motivation in that way? Great. Like you're focused on yourself. Yeah, you're going to do that for me. That absolutely didn't happen. And I do feel like I need to clear that up because I did this surgery and I did all of this for myself.
And because at the end of the day, I felt I need to do it for my health. I remember the day that I talked about when I decided I was going to do it. And that next day I sat my boyfriend at the time down and I said, I just want to let you know I'm doing this surgery. I need to address things that are bothering me with my health and my weight and told him what I was doing. I didn't ask.
And he didn't say anything. And I was like, are you sure you have nothing to say? And he's like, I don't want to say the wrong thing. So I'm like, OK, that's fine. I then started this journey. You're supposed to also like. Be on a very specific diet kind of before the surgery which I wouldn't especially because it could be dangerous.
I don't I couldn't can't say I did that amazing like amazingly like I was definitely more in like a binge phase like well this is the last time I could eat all these things.
And I guess he was watching me do that and you know there during that time but he knew I was going to doctors preparing for the surgery had the date all of this. And it was around, this was all around the time that I was like struggling the most. And I remember it was like right after my sister's wedding, which was in November. And I was getting the surgery December 11th.
That was definitely my lowest and my lowest point mentally, but also physically. And I'm not dumb. And I knew that there was a little bit of like, I mean, we weren't having sex. I think the amount that I would think that people in a relationship do. Again, this was my first relationship. So that definitely changed a little over time.
and i kept asking like i kept being like or like i kept saying things and it would be like your back hurts or kind of blaming me or like or i'm tired or whatever it was situation yes definitely gaslighting until finally after the wedding i was like what am i doing like i'm i i'm not stupid and i feel something's off so i'm gonna say it again and i was like i remember we were at my apartment and i was like
What. Something's off. I feel like you don't want to touch me. I feel like like something's off and he's like no you're crazy. Like no. And I'm like I just I just don't think that's true. Out of nowhere he was like I'm full of shit. You're right. I have not been sexually attracted to you for a while since you gained the weight. Yeah.
And I literally like in that moment was just like, oh, my God, like he's literally everyone else online. My parents all as much as I love my parents, like all of these people that I felt felt a certain way about me because of my body. But I was like, this person doesn't like he.
Right. Like, that's what makes me angry. Like, you knew what I was going through. You knew I was actively. I get it. Like, that's I think that goes back to parents and stuff, too. Like when they see someone maybe hurting or they think someone's hurting or struggling, like you're going to say something and maybe you say the wrong thing.
If you're not if you know you know I've had issues with my parents because of that and they said the wrong thing I said this is my life and I need to deal with it on my own. He chose to not say anything when I gave him the opportunity to for a good month or so and then just like threw on me like yeah like. I don't I do feel this way because of what you look like.
Like you told me the opposite, though. You told me you didn't. And I just felt very in that moment. I was like betrayed. I'm like, you're like everyone else on the Internet. Get the fuck out of my apartment. Like I was literally like never talk to me again. Like I was like screaming. I was literally like I just couldn't believe that what I thought maybe would be true.
No, there's no way like was true. Right. That was in November. We broke up for like a week. But he was like, you know, changing the narrative a little bit. Like, I want to be with you until I'm 90 so we could play pickleball. We don't fucking play pickleball. So we could play pickleball and have a healthy, happy life together.
So then I started changing that narrative a little to the close friends I told to and being like, well, maybe it's not about my body. Maybe it's about health. Yeah.
to my parents and they were like well maybe he just wants the best for you you know but that led into we got back together it wasn't like a public breakup or anything that was just like between us right and i remember i sat him down i was like i don't know if i'm gonna be able to get this out of my head but i'm gonna try because i was so in love and wanted the support during that time and i sat him down i was like trying to really explain what i never explained like i have an eating disorder i have i have this issue like i gained this weight because of this this and this and he's like but you know gaining 40 pounds isn't normal right like this isn't normal
And I'm like, I know it's not normal.
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