Rima Grace

But I don't know.

If you're trying to build a family together, then you kind of want to be morally and financially aligned.

If that's what the intention is.

Like you can approach it saying, I overheard something that really surprised you.

Didn't realize you had that money invested, but it also makes me feel like I don't actually understand your financial world or how you think about what matters.

So like, can we talk about that?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

You're right.

And like the, you know, investing that much into oil is not a passive thing.

Like you're making an active bet where she's saying she's comfortable making money off of this industry.

And so, and I do think investing is one of the clearest financial ways we can express our values.

So, you know, if you're not aligned in that way, then it's worth knowing that and figuring it out.

Okay, divest from dating.

You and your girlfriend aren't married, so she's not obligated to share her financial life with you.

But there is a difference between filling up your car and actively investing tens of thousands of dollars in the fossil fuel industry.

And if she's keeping that a secret from you, probably a red flag.

The two of you should have a candid, nonjudgmental conversation about your values.

After we finished giving advice, Sam had a great reflection on the questions that you all sent in and a final piece of advice.