Rima Grace

But Sam, there are people who would love being in this kind of relationship, right?

Who would expect that.

You're raising your hand.

Um, but I think, and it depends on how also early they are in the relationship.

I think if it's early days, then maybe this is like him really just trying to court her.

And if it becomes a pattern, then I would say you make it, you make the conversations about like partnership and not pity.

Like you're not going to him saying, hey, you're in debt, so stop...

paying so much.

Instead, you're saying like, hey, I want to feel like this is an equal partnership.

I want to contribute.

I want to show my care that way.

It makes me feel closer to you.

All right.

Let me know.

Give me those four sodas.

Dating debt, it sounds like it's still early days with this guy, which means it's the perfect time to figure out whether he can have vulnerable conversations about money.

If he's not able to set aside his pride and let you contribute financially to dates, then maybe you should start going to the movies with friends instead.

Messy.

What do you think, Sam?

I think I actually want to push back because I think you're right to some degree what someone does with their money while they're dating is their money.